I’d like to share my story as I’m struggling to
Come to terms with everything that’s happened. Hoping for some advice.
I found out I was pregnant on the 18th November, I was shocked as I’m only 20 years old and I had been taking my pill. I told my boyfriend and our family’s and everyone was happy for us. I’d come round to the idea and I was so excited.
I’d worked out I was about 4 weeks pregnant, so booked in for a doctors appointment.
The morning of my doctors appointment I started spotting (I’d read this was completely normal) I didn’t think anything of it. My doctors confirmed pregnancy and told me if the bleeding hadn’t stopped to come back in a weeks time.
A few days later the bleeding got a lot worse more like a brown discharge colour and I’d started getting stomach cramps (more towards my right hand side ) so I took myself to A&E where they transferred me to the EPU.
The doctor did an examination of me and said everything looked normal and it could have been old blood. But booked me in for a scan on the Tuesday morning.
Monday afternoon came round and I suddenly fell to the floor in agony, the pain was just unbearable. I couldn’t walk i was shaking, I felt sick, I was bleeding a lot heavier. I’d never felt a pain quite like it, and this point I knew something had happened to our baby.
We rang the EPU unit and they told us to get to them ASAP. When I arrived the pains had calmed down and I felt a lot better! The doctor examined me again, told me to rest and come back for my scan in the morning.
Tuesday morning came by (scan day)
In my head already I knew there was going to be a problem. She was scanning me which felt like forever the pain was unbearable, (more to my right side ). She told us she could see a shadow on my right hand side and she would get a doctor in to speak to me ASAP. There was no baby. My heart broke in to a million pieces, how could you love something so much that you never really had?
All day I was prodded, poked, I didn’t even care. The pain of been told is lost my baby over run any physical pain.
The doctor explained to me he thought I’d was an ectopic pregnancy, he had my blood results which confirmed this.
He explained to about the methotrexate injection, which I was happy to have. I was to come back on the Wednesday (next day) to have this done.
That night my pains came back but this time they were a lot worse. I was rushed to A&E again where they kept me overnight on the EPU ward.
I had my injection on Wednesday as planed,
they wanted to keep me in to monitor the pain. The early hours on Thursday morning I woke up in hospital again with this unbearable pain. That’s when the nurses/doctors decided I was having surgery that day.
From 5am I was been sick, feeling faint, the pain seemed to be getting worse and worse. At 10am I finally was taken for the surgery.
They managed to do it keyhole but had to remove my Fallopian tube. They explained what they had seen on the scan had tripled in size, and they’d found a lot of blood in my pelvis area.
If I had been left a few more days I would have died.
Now nearly a week on, my physical pain is ok.
But my mental pain I worry for. I go back to work on Monday and I’m scared I’m not going to be able to handle all the questions.
My boyfriends and family have been amazing.
But I’m scared for the future, for when we are ready to try for a baby again. What will happen?
Charlotte xxx