Hi everyone,
I had my second ectopic in May which resulted in the removal of my left tube. It was heartbreaking. I waited a few months and saw a fertility specialist. I did some tests and we agreed I would try naturally until the end of the year and then move on to IVF if unsuccessful. I really thought that would be what we’d end up doing, but this morning I had a positive pregnancy test (a very faint line) a few days before my period is due. I have some twingy, achy, pulling feelings in my pelvis and am incredibly anxious that it will be another ectopic, even though my right tube looks fine. I feel similar to how I felt with my last ectopic except I haven’t had the extreme, sharp pain (but it would be too early for that anyway). My specialist gave me a form for a blood test as soon as I got a positive pregnancy test, but I don’t want to do it. It’s a weird feeling in that I’d rather be unaware if something is wrong because I just don’t want to deal with the trauma again. My anxiety is extreme. I can’t sleep or eat or think about anything else. I know it’s still so early and could be a chemical pregnancy too, which would almost feel like a relief at this stage because I’m so convinced it will be ectopic. Anyway, just venting to people who might understand and any strategies to deal with this period of time would be really appreciated. I will organise a scan for 5.5 weeks as recommended by my doctor but in the meantime, I don’t know how I’ll function for the next 12 or so days.
Dear KathrynMary86,
Whispered congratulations on your pregnancy,
After an ectopic pregnancy, finding we are pregnant again can be a mix of emotions and I can completely understand your feeling nervous. It is perfectly normal to feel scared after the ordeal you have endured. I also felt twinges and aches after my ectopic pregnancy, particularly when I next felt pregnant. My mind started racing and I was only really able to relax to some degree after my early scan. It is a nerve-wracking time and you have a friend here who understands how you are feeling.
I vividly remember the wait for my 6week scan and I too was preparing for the worst. Try just to take each day as it comes but you must also try to ensure that you are eating and drinking otherwise you will feel physically worse.
I will be keeping everything crossed for you,
Sending much love and positive thoughts,
Karen x
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Thank you Karen. I’ve calmed down a bit since that first positive test and am going to get my blood test today. I’ve also been eating and drinking (working on the sleeping part). It is good to hear from someone who knows how this feels. Thanks so much. Xx