It’s so sad to hear that so many people have had similar experiences but I’m also finding it kind of comforting. I don’t know about anyone else but I’ve found it pretty lonely. My collapse and subsequent surgery happened on Nov 11th and due to Covid my husband had to send me off in an ambulance at midday, then I wasn’t able to speak with him until that evening. I’ve obviously told him what happened and he’s very understanding but I still feel pretty alone with it.
The response from friends and family has mainly focused on recovery from surgery with little acknowledgement of the loss of a baby or the trauma associated with the collapse and being so unwell. Paulina your comment about coming into contact with your own mortality really struck a chord and I just wish others could understand that. And Sarah I’m struggling to process it too, with so much to get my head around. I guess for both of us the events were so recent that it will take some time.
Calty your advice of not trying to do too much and expecting the anaemia to be around for a while was really helpful. I’ve found followup/advice post discharge has been really limited so it’s hard to know what to expect. I’ve already pushed myself too much I think and ended up more tired and with an infected incision scar. It’s just hard to know what to do for the best and how to get back to some kind of normal.
Katy x