I had an ectopic 2 weeks ago and lost my right tube. My partner and I have stupidly been having unprotected sex because we just couldn’t wait any longer emotionally and felt the need to be close after the trauma. My question is has anyone else had sex soon after an ectopic/tube removal and got pregnant before their first period or in the first couple of cycles? If so was the pregnancy in the right place?
I’m in the same boat. I had an ectopic 1 week ago. Lost my right tube but I also had a lot of scar tissue removed from my left tube and had the left tube blown out. My post op appointment is June 16 and my doctor said he would use the dye to see if it is still open. I was 7 weeks and 2 days when I lost my baby. It was my first child. I’m sorry for your loss , you are not alone. I am also having unprotected sex even though I was advised not to.
Thank you I feel better that I’m not the only one trying again so soon. Good luck for your post op fingers crossed for you. I have not been offered a follow up but will be going back to my G.P as have so many unanswered questions and my stitches still have not dissolved. I have a daughter from a previous relationship but me and my current partner are desperate for a baby. I have had 2 miscarriages and an ectopic which has been devastating. Although we started trying again straight away I’m starting to wish we’d waiting as I’m not prepared emotionally for another loss. I’m a great believer in what will be will be and if you want something bad enough you’ll get it so I’m not giving up hope just yet 
Hi, I’m 4 weeks post right tube removal, we have had unprotected sex s few times in last 2 weeks. My GP said it was ok but I’m still terrified and at the same time desperate for our baby. Wishing us all healthy pregnancies soon xx
Hi both. So sorry you’ve both been through ectopics. However, it really isn’t ok to ttc again so soon. You are supposed to wait 2 cycles/3 months (whichever is soonest) and there are so many reasons for this – both emotional and physical. You might feel ready emotionally to try again but your body isn’t healed. Studies suggest you’re at an increased risk of a subsequent ectopic if you don’t allow your body to heal. Women who have had ectopics are always going to be at a slightly risk of having another ectopic but the risk is greater in the early days. You’ll also have no idea if you’re actually pregnant as your periods haven’t come back yet so you’ll have to test more or less every day from now onwards. You’ll also have no way to date a new pregnancy. I run several online ectopic pregnancy support groups and I’ve seen women who have ttc too soon get into a real state over not knowing if they’re pregnant or if they’re waiting for their periods to come back which can take up to 10 weeks. Sadly, I’ve also seen too many have a miscarriage which isn’t related to ectopics but they haven’t been emotionally healed enough to deal with two losses so close together. I’ve also seen too many women go on to have another ectopic straight away and have lost a second tube. At the end of the day, it is your decision but, for the want of waiting a couple of months, I’d say it really isn’t worth putting your physical or emotional health at unnecessary risk. There’s no reason why you can’t have sex if you’re ready to but use barrier protection. The EPT provides full details of why it’s important to wait 2 cycles/3 months. You can find it at the link below – click into the section called “Timing”. x
I feel even worse and more worried after reading this last post. I wanted to wait and tried to use condoms but was under a lot of pressure from my partner as he is going away for awhile soon and was keen to resume intimacy before he goes. I’m now petrified incase I am pregnant again and it is another ectopic. I am at a loss of what to do now as the damage could already of been done from having unprotected sex 
What shall I do?
You poor thing, all the pressure is not good is it. All I would say is wait a week or two and perhaps take a hpt. I take it you have not had a menstrual cycle yet? Either hopefully AF will arrive or you will have to test to check. I dont think the last post was trying to worry you just to highlight the reasons they tell you to wait but that does not mean something terrible will or is going to happen. Just try and hold on until you feel its time enough to test or for AF to arrive. Take Care. x
Hi. I really didn’t intend to make you feel worse. It’s just better to be armed with all the facts as early as possible. I care so much about women who have had ectopics. When I had mine exactly 6 years ago, I had no support and no one gave me any info/advice. Finding the EPT and the ladies on this site about a year afterwards saved my sanity and that’s why I now run support groups and am hoping to become a volunteer with the EPT. Some doctors/hospitals amaze me that they can give such inaccurate advice – or no advice. I did actually have unprotected sex with my then-boyfriend just over two weeks post-surgery as I didn’t have a clue but I wasn’t ready emotionally and called a stop to it midway. I didn’t know about the 2 month/3 cycle wait in those days so the risks didn’t occur to me. I just wasn’t ready for that sort of intimacy and just needed to be held. But, anyway, there’s no need to panic. Chances are you’ve not ovulated yet so you won’t be pregnant. My periods took 9 weeks to come back so I probably ovulated for the first time at around 7 weeks post-surgery. That’s quite late but most women don’t ovulate until around 4 weeks post-surgery. And, even if you have, chances are you won’t be pregnant. And, if you are, it doesn’t mean you’ll have another ectopic but you just need to minimise the risk. I would follow ginge0203’s advice and test in about a week or so. But please do use barrier contraception from now on as you could ovulate from anytime now. No one likes condoms but they’re a necessity sometimes. I’m sure your partner cares more for your health than about having to use condoms anyway. xx
Hi,
Hope your feeling somewhat better now? I had my first cycle exactly 4 weeks post op so it just shows how different we all are and how different our bodies are. please let us know how you get on and how you are doing.
Leanne x
Thanks for all your replies and advice ladies. I feel better informed as was told very little at the hospital and my G.P was very vague in answering my questions.
I am now 3 weeks post surgery and still have not had a period and have no idea if I’ve ovulated. Most of my stitches have no dissolved and the wound sites are not painful, however I am getting backache and an aching pain down the side where my tube was removed. I still feel very fragile emotionally and the fact that my partner goes away on Monday is also stressing me.
I am going to keep doing weekly hpts until I have a period just incase I have got pregnant already. I know my hcg is zero as I have tested x
Just to update you on my situation. I decided to visit my G.P for peace of mind and told her my concerns about the unprotected sex. She said it would be very unlikely I was pregnant and was very strict with me about the need for condoms and additional contraception after my first period has arrived. My partner finally understands and was a lot more supportive after my appointment. We have decided not to start trying again until after Xmas in order to give my body and mind time to heal and obtain optimum health. After suffering 2 miscarriages (one at 15 weeks) and an ectopic I’m not ready emotionally to deal with anymore losses. Luckily I am blessed with a gorgeous 14 month old little lady from a previous relationship who is my world. I’m going to and pray that my period arrives soon and I am not pregnant again yet x
Hi, I had my ectopic surgery in november past and have just started trying again. I definitely recommend waiting and giving yourself time to heal mentally and emotionally more than anything! You’ve still got quite an emotional rollercoaster in front of you. It does get easier and these forums are great!!
Much love to you x
Sorry I know this thread is old but one week ago I went through an ectopic which resulted in having my right tube removed
I finding conflicting information about when to start TTC again, every consultant/nurse & doctor that I saw all told me that there was no reason why I couldn’t start again straight away but just for dating purposes to wait for my first period. My GP also told me the same on Tuesday…
But this site and various others say to wait!!
I don’t even know if I do want to start straight away but I am just trying to get my head straight and facts right but everything I read puts my head in a spin
Sorry to hear about your ectopic. There’s definitely conflicting info, but some of it depends on your situation as well. As for the mental side, you’ll know when you’re ready again. I had to wait three months (I had two doses of methotrexate before I ruptured), but when I went in for a follow up after 6 weeks post surgery, the doctor said that if I got pregnant before the three months, that would be ok.
I hope you are doing ok. It is a tough go.
Hi ladies. Not sure if anyone is going to see this. But I’m having such a hard time waiting. I had my ectopic pregnancy treated on September 6th with methotrexate. I’ve been taking folic acid for 4 weeks now and really want to TTC. My numbers were only at 500 and they said the MTX worked really well. I was advised as well to wait 2 cycles or 3 months. I just finished my first period and I’ve also heard of people getting the OK once they get the first period. So I’m not sure why some people say it’s ok after one cycle and others are not. It was also our first pregnancy and we both really want a child now…
Hi dtrisha,
I know it’s a few weeks on so you may have been trying but I know it’s tough with the conflicting advice. I had surgery to remove my ectopic so the advice I got might be different as I didn’t have the MTX drug. I’m 36 and was told wait till a proper period before trying. I think you can get told to wait a bit longer to help with the emotional healing. At first I thought I wanted to start ttc as soon as possible to replace the hole that I felt was there from having an ectopic. A few weeks later I feel better about waiting until I’m more ready emotionally. I think I was told I could try after 1 period as my chances of conceiving get reduced when you are a bit older. I read some info that said they gave different times to wait if you are under 35 than if you are over 35. It does make sense to wait until you are emotionally ready because if you had a miscarriage it would be devestating but also if you were blessed to be pregnant then I imagine there would be a lot of stress worrying for the entire pregnancy if everything was OK. Either way you need to be strong emotionally which none of us are after losing a baby. I’m also a believer that if its meant to be then it will happen, regardless of what’s going on around you.
Hopefully you are in a good space now and have either made a decision to wait or are happy trying. Good luck, Sylvia X
Hey girls, this is my first post on here in years but I couldn’t let this one go by without adding my experience…
I had a ruptured ep August 07, and had surgery to remove pregnancy and tube on August 6th. My son (now seven!) was conceived in August 22nd and is a happy healthy child.
Two caveats here though:
1 - if you are treated with methotrexate you MUST be very careful to follow doctor’s orders re. TTC as the chemicals in the treatment need to be out of your system before you conceive.
2 - while my son was a healthy happy baby, I was a complete nervous wreck through the whole of my pregnancy, I did not enjoy it at all, and test feel like I missed out on an experience by not having time to heal after my loss…
That said, after 7 years me and OH just decided that we were ready to ‘leave it up to fate’ again so maybe, just maybe, I’ll get to enjoy a pregnancy after all!
Hi ladies
Just thought I would share what I have been told. Firstly, I am sorry for everyone’s losses, life is cruel sometimes. I had an EP in March '16 and had to have my right tube removed. I was told by my gynaecologist to have a proper period and then we could start TTC again. I got my period just over 4 weeks after my EP and we have been TTC since then as my husband and I really want a baby, this EP would have been our first.
However, one thing I will say is although I was told to wait for one period I am now 3 periods along and haven’t conceived yet. Even though I’m sad about it, I’m now starting to realise that in reality I am only just over two months post op. Our bodies take time to heal let alone the emotions attached to what has happened to us. We need to be kind to ourselves and our bodies, however frustrating it is. I expect we all want to enjoy our pregnancies. As annoying as it is to say I guess these things will happen when we are all truly ready.
Good luck to all of us x