Please give me hope

Hi,

I never post on any of the boards just like looking through but I am struggling to find anything solid on sucess after methotrexate, I have so many unanswered questions so here is my story. I have had 3 losses one living son whom is now 14 young pregnancy but a very wanted boy love him to bits, I have been trying for 7 years to conceive again went through all the testing found out in 2011 I had blocked Fallopian tubes had recanilsation tubes were checked 1 year later clear on the left slow transit on the right but still patent was told to have IVF as they though I had secondary infertility I disregarded this information went private for iui first failed second resulted in a Chemical pregnancy in May 2014 proof I could get pregnant new hope for us. Decided we could go it alone started temping and using opks and I fell pregnant the first month miscarried at 4 and a half weeks started thinking can’t happen a third time but low and behold another bfp made it to 5 weeks and 4 days then I thought I miscarried this was the worst one as it made me think why what’s wrong with me and my body 3 times is just cruel bled for a few weeks and thought this was strange then the pain hit me in a shopping store straight out of the blue stabbing in my right side couldn’t stand up went to a&e thought it was my appendix turns out blood tests said I was still pregnant with a hcg of around 300 scan showed ectopic stuck in my right tube put me on a drip and had another scan in the morning. They told me I could have the mtx shot instead of losing the tube I agreed and sometimes wonder if I had the tube removed would I have been better off as this right one seems to be getting in the way. Anyway my 3 months is nearly up and I will go back to trying it’s been a difficult decision but I didn’t come this far to give up. I know my story is long but boy this has been a relief to actually get all this out. So has anyone had sucess after mtx I always read about women who have had the tube removed and had sucess but the mtx isn’t as common a story. Are the chances the same? I won’t even get into the emotional side of it just now as that’s a whole other story and i think everyone on here knows full well it’s hard I am lucky enough to be in a better place today which I thought would never happen so anyone wondering if that feeling will go it does and hope starts again fear never goes sorry in brutally honest. I’ll just add I’m 34 now and if it’s not happened by 35 next year I may have to give in and get IVF (which I do not want to do very strongly do not want to do).

Dear Kelly

I am so sorry to hear of your losses. You have been through so much and my heart goes out to you.

To answer your question, as far as I know, there is no significant difference with the chance of a future successful pregnancy between treatment routes and studies show that the chance of a future pregnancy depend more on the health of the opposite tube. I hope this can offer some comfort.

Love


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Hi,

Sorry for the late reply I have been on a 2 week holiday and juts getting round to checking this now. inhave just ovulated and ready to go into the tww absolutely terrified as I have felt ovulation quite strongly on my right side so it just a case of waiting hoping and praying if this becomes a pregnancy that it implants in the correct place. K x

Hi there,

This is my first response but my heart goes out to you And your partner. Don’t give dear have hope without it life is not it will happen at the right time and it doesn’t matter matter how old you are u will get pregnant andGod will enable you carry that child for the entire 9 months.

Thank you farida for your kind words. I am fairly relaxed just now and I hope I can stay this way, start back acupuncture next Friday so I’m sure that’ll help me relax while I await the outcome of this tww. K

You have been through a lot.it’s normal to have concerns.

I had an ectopic pregnancy last year when i was 35 and was treated with mtx. I’m now 27 weeks pregnant.

Wishing you success x