Dear Prova,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
I wish to firstly reassure you that sadly nothing can be done to “save” an ectopic pregnancy. Even if you had gone to hospital sooner, they would not have been able to do anything differently to give you a positive outcome. I know how hard it is and how we feel can often feel guilty, but from the bottom of my heart there is no more you could have done. You are not to blame and please be kind to yourself.
These boards are a safe place to share your thoughts and feelings or if you just want to vent, we will be here for you for as long as you need. Some colleagues also recommend that journaling about your experience helps to make sense of emotions.
Whilst your feelings are completely normal at this stage of recovery, if the bad days start to outweigh the good, we at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for “talking therapies” or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services.
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Many women also experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
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During the coronavirus outbreak, The EPT team is still working hard to provide crucial information and support to women and families experiencing ectopic pregnancy as quickly and efficiently as we can.
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