Any good news stories?

Preparing For Your Next Pregnancy
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Hello, this is my first time posting here. Thank you to everyone who has previously posted because you’ve given me the confidence to post myself!

I fell pregnant last year and unfortunately it was an ectopic pregnancy. I had to have my left tube removed at 6 weeks which was very traumatic. I’m very lucky to have a loving and supportive husband and family and friends, but I find talking to others about my experience very difficult. I don’t think people truly understand the ordeal of pregnancy loss, or how to talk about it.

I am now trying to conceive again. I’m 33 and we have been trying for 8 months with no positive results yet. I know the stats say you just need to keep going, but it’s hard not to worry there may be some other reason stopping us from conceiving! A lot of people have told me to “relax”, but I don’t find this advice particularly helpful (if I’m honest, it’s more frustrating than anything else!!).

I find that since my operation, my cycles have changed and this is quite stressful. It means that the time where I am waiting for my period to arrive (or hoping it won’t) feels uncertain as I’m never certain when my period will come. I am very worried about having another ectopic, even though I understand that it is less likely a second time.

I would really love to know if anyone has some good news stories to keep me positive in this journey!

Thanks x:heart:

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Hi Katie90,

I’m so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. Our experiences represent both physical and emotional trauma, and leave us with many questions and feelings.

It is positive that you were able to become pregnant, even though it resulted in an ectopic pregnancy, which is absolutely no fault of your own. It’s very natural to feel anxious about TTC after an ectopic pregnancy. Anxious over what might happen and what might not. It’s difficult to wait each month to see if you are pregnant, and I know that waiting and expectation can take their toll.

While I’m not medically qualified to comment on your specific situation, our periods can be different following an ectopic pregnancy. The stress of TTC following an ectopic might also have an impact. As you have concerns, it might be worth following up with your GP for further guidance.

You may have read this on our Boards already, but so many factors contribute to becoming pregnant. It may provide some comfort to know that it is usually possible to conceive successfully after having an ectopic pregnancy, though the time it generally takes varies considerably from couple to couple. Approximately 65 percent of women are healthily pregnant within 18 months of ectopic pregnancy, and some studies show this rises to around 85 percent after two years.

There are also good news stories on this board. I don’t think I ever “relaxed” after my ectopic pregnancies. I carried the nervousness with me into future pregnancies, but I also knew that medical care was there to support me. I also was more in tune with my body and its signals. I want to give you hope that it’s possible and to take it in your own time. I was 32 when I had two ectopics in one year, and I did go on to conceive.

Be kind to yourself; take things in your own time and as it feels good. When you have questions about your body, get medical advice and advocate for yourself. We are here for you anytime, for as long as you need.

With good wishes,

Michele

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Hi Katie

I’m sorry to hear about your ectopic. I had an ectopic in January which ended up needing emergency surgery to remove my right tube.

I spiralled into thinking that was my last shot at conceiving but when we were ready, we started again and conceived on our 2nd cycle. Am also in my 30s. I’m sure you have heard that the tubes move to collect the egg from the other side. I heard someone say once though that each month we ovulate from our unaffected side, we have just as much chance as anyone else!

I am 10 weeks today, have had a few scans already to check location etc but wanted to share a positive story for you.

Good luck on your journey.

Amy xxx

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I am 35 and just found out I have a pregnancy in the uterus today.

We had pursued fertility testing for my husband (cheaper in my country to start with the man especially since there were known issues for me) and were just getting ready to start treatment for him

I wish you the best in your journey.