Worried I won’t be able to get pregnant again

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Feeling a bit low these past few weeks.

I Had an ectopic pregnancy in Jan this year which ended with my right tube rupturing and being removed.

This is our 4 month TTC and I am SO worried I can’t get pregnant again. I had a call with the GP (I’m uk based) and she said they won’t even look in to my fertility until we have been trying for one year, so that was pretty disheartening. I’m not sure if my left tube is ok and that’s what’s causing me worry.

In 2021 I had a beautiful little boy and fell pregnant quickly with him and also with the ectopic this year: But now it seems it’s taking longer. I know I am ovulating as I experience pain each month (didn’t before ectopic) and I get positive ovulation tests but I can’t help but worry :face_holding_back_tears:

No idea why this happened to me and it sucks!

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Hi Gema_Lou64, I

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this worrying time. It’s very natural to feel anxious about ttc after an ectopic pregnancy. Anxious over what might happen and what might not. It’s difficult to wait each month to see if you are pregnant, and I know that waiting and expectation can take their toll.

There are so many factors that contribute to becoming pregnant. It may provide some comfort to know that it is usually possible to conceive successfully after having an ectopic pregnancy, though the time it generally takes varies considerably from couple to couple. Approximately 65 percent of women are healthily pregnant within 18 months of ectopic pregnancy and some studies show this rises to around 85 percent after two years.

It is very possible and quite normal to feel ovulation pains, following an ectopic, even if you had not felt them before. It could be due to scar tissue or even heightened sensations and pain awareness. I also feel my ovulation more than I ever did before my ectopic pregnancies.

I found that the first few months were the hardest, as I didn’t fully understand why it happened to me. Slowly, the darkest clouds lifted, and I began to have some ok days and even some good days again sometimes. Recovery is not always a smooth path, however. With time though, I began to accept what had happened, and although we never forget, it is something that is a part of us that we learn to live with.

Please know we are here for you on this journey for as long as you need.

With good wishes,

Michele

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I’m scared too. It took a while for me to conceive my first because I was working as a teacher and was so stressed out. But my boys were all easy, 1 cycle on all of them. I wanted to have one last baby as I’m running out of time. We’re on cycle 2 of trying, and while I haven’t taken a test yet for this round, I’m scared too. I’m mad at myself for worrying, but it is sobering to realize that fertility did take a hit. It is likely going to take longer. I know that I am blessed to already have children, but I still feel worried. It’s hard. Just wanted to sit in the same space with you with these hard feelings.