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Hi everyone.

I had my ecliptic pregnancy treated by removal of my right Fallopian tube about 10 days ago. It was my first pregnancy.

My physical recovery has been ok but I have been experienced weird twinges and bloated type feelings over the last 24 hours. Has anyone else experienced this and how long did it take to subside?

The harder part is that I am feeling so low and hopeless and despite the tremendous efforts of my husband, friends and family I just seem to be feeling more and more sad. I feel bad because I don’t want to keep whinging at them about how I feel, even though they have been so understanding and supportive. Part of me feels like the only thing that will make me feel better is to start trying to get pregnant again, but I’m so scared to do this in case I have another ectopic. I feel really trapped and don’t know what do to to make myself feel better. I’ve tried to stay busy and occupied and talk about things sometimes but nothing seems to really help. I never feel present in the things I do to try and lift my mood.

Did anyone else find any strategies that helped them to improve how they were feeling?

Any suggestions would be gratefully received!

Xxx

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So sorry you are feeling low, but it was somehow comforting to read your post as I’m feeling exactly the same today. I had surgery 9 days ago that involved left tube removal. I feel low, lost, and unsure how to break myself out of it. Regarding coping strategies, over the past couple of days I’ve set myself a small goal a day to see if it helps… a shower, a brief walk outside, today looking at the trust forum… just small steps and go easy on ourselves I guess and I’m hoping doing a bit more each day might help me through?

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Ah I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this too. It’s so tough isnt it?. It is reassuring to know that there are others experiencing similar things though, so thank you for replying to my original post.

Thank you for your advice - I’ve been trying to do the same and plan little targets to keep myself going. I am finding hard to commit to anything though-I keep coming back to the same intrusive , negative thoughts. Hopefully time will heal but really struggling at the mo.

I hope you are feeling better soon. Xx

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I had an ectopic earlier this year and I remember this feeling. Before I came onto this forum,I called the helpline. It is not something that I thought I would ever do but I just remember feeling like I had to do something and it really helped. I didn’t know what I was going to say but I spoke for ages and the lady was so reassuring and comforting. I remember her saying that it is ok to feel whatever you feel. And that really helped,a lot of my friends were about to give birth or were announcing pregnancies and I just felt it was unfair and then felt bad that I wasn’t happy for them. The lady on the helpline was so right,u have been through something traumatic physically and emotionally,give yourself time and remember it is ok to feel what u fee!. I felt it helped me by taking control of decisions…deciding to call the helpline and doing it,deciding to tell my friends and doing it,deciding who to tell at work and doing it.

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Dear Loupy512,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,

Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You have also had to process the loss of your baby and been through an immense rollercoaster of emotions - all of this will take time to come to terms with.

You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body’s signals and pain and feeling tired are your body’s signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.

Continue to lean on us too, these boards are a safe space to share, ask questions, or to vent. They are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and journeys, and we are here for you for as long as you need.

Sending much love,

Karen x

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