At the beginning of Oct me and my partner decided to give my 4 yo daughter from a previous relationship a little brother or sister. I obviously caught quite quickly as by 10th Nov I was having positive results,happy times! I started having pains in my right side of my stomach on 16th,but they past within a few hours and I put it down to an upset stomach. I received my green notes the morning of 19th,it was becoming real to both of us,it was my partners first child(he’s 28) we was really happy and felt ready. That evening I was having to the previous pains,but I put off getting medical help. I ended up egetting rushed into hospital early hours of the 20th. I had an internal and external scan that afternoon and the sonographer couldn’t see anything. My consultant came round to see me and said the pain was due to my fallopian tube was close to rupturing. I was being taken down for emergency surgery tat evening. Within 48 hours of our happiest news to date being confirmed I was having our baby removed. Along with my fallopian tube,so my chances for my future being lowered,and I’m only 22. Surgeons couldnt do keyhole surgery so I had my cesarean scar reopened. With my daughter I suffered post-natal depression,and those are the feelings I’m having at the moment. I feel so angry with myself! Please can someone help me,will these feeling get easier? Tia xx
Hi Kim - firstly, I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. Things must still be very raw and painful for you just now. It can be hard for others to understand the impact of a loss through ectopic and hard to talk to people about it. You’re doing the right thing in seeking support - this board was a lifeline to me through my two ectopics and one of my miscarriages. I promise it does get easier gradually, but be kind and give yourself time to grieve.
Hugs,
Dianne
Thank you Dianne for your reply. I really didn’t think anyone would. I’m sorry to hear about you lose also. It’s been three weeks now,I feel I’ve gone into robot mode. My first mid wife appointment is looming and its really playing on my mind. Also how do I approach afriends that are pregnant? I don’t want them to feel guilty. It’s true that people don’t know how you feel and what it is like until you go through it yourself xx