I feel so scared and lost after ectopic

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Hi everyone

I’m new to this but I need help with what I’m feeling right now!!

I don’t really have anyone to talk to at home!! I had an ectopic pregnancy 8 days ago which resulted in surgery and having my left tube removed as it had ruptured and I was dying I just can’t stop crying and feeling like it was my fault and if I had just done things differently my baby would of been ok and the pregnancy would of continued as normal!!

I have a supportive partner but I just can’t talk to him about how I’m feeling at the moment and I don’t know why!! I just feel so alone and scared that if I try again for another baby that the same thing will happen again!!

I just don’t know how to get through this!!

Thank you for taking the time to read this x

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Hi Vickey. I am so sorry for your loss. Please don’t feel that you could have done anything differently. An ectopic is literally just the embryo ending up in the wrong place and it isn’t something you can change through your lifestyle. It is a really scary and upsetting experience and I think everyone of these forums feels the same way about TTC again as it is difficult not to fear the same experience. Time does definitely help and so many people here go on to have children successfully (including me!). Take things slowly and try to share your feelings when you can - your partner will want to support you. Take care and look after yourself. Scoops. XXX