Hi I am new to this forum. Been confirmed with eptopic pregnancy and have had treatment with methotrexate. Feeling physically ok at the moment but mentally I am a mess. One minute I’m ok then I’m in floods of tears and then screaming angry. I Just feel so heartbroken. I had only just begun to feel normal after i miscarried earlier this year and now just feel totally devastated. I have lost two little angels in the space of a few months and it’s so very difficult to comprehend. My partner is extremely supportive and is doing his best to support me but he is just as sad as I am. I hope finding this forum will help as myself and my partner have no one else to talk to who have experienced such loss.
Dear hel06,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and losses, you have been through a huge amount in such a short space of time and it is very normal to feel overwhelmed.
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
Coming to terms with what has happened will take time. You are still in the early stages of recovery and are physically and emotionally needing to heal.
You will need space to process what has happened and it can feel isolating. With us here at the Trust, we have been through similar experiences and I can understand how lonely it feels. You have friends here and please do continue to lean on us for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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Dear hel06,
I’m sorry for your losses. I understand how you feel, as I have a similar situation where I had a miscarriage in December and a ruptured ectopic and tube removal in March. I felt a roller coaster of emotions…sadness…anger…pain. I’ve taken steps to manage my emotions and stay positive, by taking up Pilates, swimming and tried acupuncture shortly after my ectopic. I’ve also found talking to people at the time helped a great deal, as friends and family were supportive. I still think about what happened everyday, but I’m doing well and enjoying my life. You must feel terrible now, but I hope things get easier for you both.
Take care.
Xx
Thank you both for your kind replies. I know that in time things will begin to feel easier and it is reassuring to hear that that is indeed the case. I suppose it is just all about taking things one day at a time. Xx