3 ectopic pregnancies

Hi ladies,

I’ve read through some of your posts, some fantastic success stories and some quite sad.

My reason for joining the forum into find hope…

I’m now 37 but 10 years ago at the ageof 27 i experienced the most physical and emotional pain I’ve ever had to endure, i had my first ep on my left and it destroyed the person i was and has lead to a 10 year obsession on the conceiving a healthy baby. I was admitted and discharged from hospital several times being told inwas possibly having an ep and then that all was fine and then that I’d miscarried…i was messed about for three weeks, i even went to a&e at 2am one morning, informing them of the three week history and was turned away, told i had a water infection, i fell asleep on my hands and knees once home, doubled up in pain despite having had analgesia. Two days later i was due back ay the epu , they refused to scan me, by this time i was an absolute emotional wreck and refused to move until they had scanned me and thank God i stood my ground because i could have died! When i came too after the operation the registrar told me my tube had began to rupture, I’d began bleeding internally.

4 years later i had what i believed to be a normal period. I was out having dinner with my partner when for reasons i will never understand something suddenly told me i was having another ectopic pregnancy! I’d had no signs or symptoms of pregnancy, it was all very strange but that sudden thought was too strong to ignore and a test confirmed that i was actually pregnant and it proved to be ectopic. I went to theatre to have an ep removed from my right tube and the Consultant managed to save my tube.

6 years on and after the15 months of trying to conceive, my partner and myself agreed a separation. We spent a night together during our separation and ironically i conceived! I knew straight away that the pregnancy was ectopic, treated this time with methatrexate so i still have my right tube. I’d had the dye test to check the patency of my right tube and that showed full flow and no concerns prior to my third ep, and actually before my second too!

I want to know if there is anyone else out there who like me has experienced 3 but gone on to have a normal healthy pregnancy, I’m very doubtful but would be grateful of any hope at all! My partner and myself have since reconcilliated.

Sending lots of baby dust out to you all xx

Dear Pinki

I’m so sorry to hear of the experiences you have had with your ectopic pregnancies. We do know that lots of women have healthy pregnancies after ectopics and I hope other women will be able to share their experiences with you.

lots of love

Host 7

x

Dear Pinki,

My heart breaks reading your story. You have been through so much that no one should have to go through once, yet alone three times. We are here for you in any way we can help whenever you need us.

It may not be an avenue that you wanted to explore, and I understand if not, but it wanted to let you know that if you speak to your GP you should be entitled to IVF or other fertility support if you would like it?

Fingers crossed people will read this post and offer their stories to give you hope. Associated with the EPT team, I know of one midwife who was told she would never be able to conceive as her tubes were totally blocked and she went through such heartache trying then had her miracle baby. I also know of a lady who had 16 miscarriages and an ectopic but one miracle baby among her heartache.

Much love,

Alex

X

Dear Pinki

I realise your original post was a few weeks ago but I haven’t been on here for a while.

I’m so sorry to hear of all you have gone through. I had 2 ectopic pregnancies, ended up having my right tube removed and then had a missed miscarriage. However, 9 months ago, after a pregnancy fraught with worry, our little daughter was born…I realise not 3 ectopics like you, but we were at the point of having lost hope and thinking it would never happen.

I hope this might give you at least a little hope x