Sharing my story

Pregnant After Ectopic Pregnancy
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Hi to all the amazing people on this forum. Firstly I am so sorry for the tragedy that has brought us all together.
I just wanted to share my experience here as a form of catharsis and to hopefully share some hope with anyone who needs it.

My fiance and I started trying to conceive in Jan this year. We conceived very quickly but sadly lost the pregnancy very early.
We started trying again as soon as we could. We also conceived again quickly, however this time I had a large bleed at 4 weeks which I had believed to be my period, so we didn’t know I was pregnant when I ruptured at roughly 7 weeks in May and lost my right tube.
At the hospital I felt I was treated differently for not being married. I also look quite young for 29, so I was asked questions like “are you sexually active?” (Read my file lady!). Also as I was being wheeled into theatre a nurse asked me “Was it a surprise?” (“Was it a surprise I’m losing my tube and a baby today!? Or are you asking if I accidentally got pregnant!? Does it make a difference??) sorry for that rant haha

After 3 months of trying we have amazingly conceived again. I have been staying as positive as possible despite the fear, but the pregnancy doesn’t feel real to me yet. I had bloods every 2 days for a week to track my HCG (146, 446, 1262), and we just had a 6 week scan that showed us a little heartbeat in my uterus. I also ovulated from the side I lost my tube which is crazy. I’m not sure what the outcome of this pregnancy will be, but I hope this gives anyone reading this some hope that our bodies are amazing, and that you are loved and amazing and will get through this x

Thanks for reading if you made it to the end x

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Hi,

Just wanting to say thanks so much for sharing, as this is exactly what I needed today. :heart:
I also had a ruptured ectopic losing my right tube at 7 weeks in August, which was my 1st pregnancy.

It’s been a tough few months but I am just about feeling ready to start trying again but so nervous, knowing it’ll be an emotional rollercoaster.

I can also relate re being not married! thankfully the hospital team were lovely (though did just keep referring to my bf as husband despite correction) but a couple of friends asked if it was planned, or commented they ‘didnt know i was trying’ …I just know they wouldn’t say that to their married friends!

Your post has given me hope xx
Such wonderful news on your pregnancy and I wish you all the best & that things continue safely and smoothly xxxxx

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Hi,

Thanks for sharing your story - reading things like this help me feel positive for the future.

I am married and also got questions about whether it was a planned pregnancy (including by the sonographer right after the scan which showed it was in the tube and also by my MIL which was worse for me). I think it’s people trying to understand the emotional background of a situation, but it can come across as intrusive.

Wishing you all the best x