Story of Hope

Hi there,

I haven’t been on here for a while to post but often return to read, as this forum has been invaluable to me and such a support.

Just want to share my story of hope with you all, cause I remember being in the grip of worry, fear and hopelessness wondering if i’d ever be a Mum, and it nearly destroyed me.

I had my first ectopic pregnancy in 2010- right tube removed, then went on to have a lap & dye to check if my left tube was patent. I received the good news that it was and after 7 months of no joy was prescribed clomid. To my shock I got pregnant the first month and was then devastated to find out found out this pregnancy was also ectopic. I chose to have methotrexate to preserve my tube but assumed that that there was little to no hope of getting pregnant as it was obvious to me that the tube was damaged or I wouldn’t have had a 2nd ectopic pregnancy on this side. I suppose I just wasn’t ready to say goodbye to my fertility and have the slim chance of IVF as my only hope. Despite this I feared trying again naturally as I reasoned I was likely to have a 3rd ep, so asked to be referred for IVF after all. My miracle 7 month old son is now sleeping beside me after the treatment worked first time.

Fast forward to the past week, where I had been experienced period type pain, but no arrival of period. I was out shopping in the supermarket and on a whim decided to buy a pregnancy test to rule it out, as I was worried about the pain wondering if I could be having another ep! To be utter shock the two tests were positive!! as was the one I bought the following morning. I practically ran to the EPU in terror, convinced of another ectopic as I only had my left ‘damaged’ tube remaining, and had tried for 7 months or more before becoming pregnant with both ep pregnancies.

For the past week I had experienced period type pain but no period materialised, also felt a bit unwell. I was shopping and decided to by a pregnancy test to rule it out, especially as I feared I could be having an ep due to the pain. To my utter shock, both tests in the pack were Positive!! I practically flew to the EPU the following day, convinced I was having my 3rd EP as I only have my left ‘damaged’ tube remaining. For the first time ever I was taken seriously in the EPU, and treated well, I thought I would be subjected to blood tests every 48 hours to monitor the HCG levels until they decided to scan me. To me amazement a consultant wanted to scan me there and then. I was on my own with just the baby, my partner having left work to meet me half an hour a way. I was petrified shaking from head to toe, but just held my baby’s hand and looked at him thinking ‘im lucky, ive got you’. Then I heard the works ‘the pregnancy is in the uterus’. It is very early days… just 4-5 weeks. But I just can’t believe this has happened. It feels miraculous.

Just wanted to share that no matter what, miracles can happen. I soaked up stories of hope when I had none left, hope this helps somebody. xx

Sorry some of the paragraphs got a bit mixed up as I was typing :oops:

Aw lovely lovely news…Congratulations :smiley: X

Thanks so much for sharing Genevieve and congratulations!

It is so nice to hear that we have been able to support you and that you often return to read. It’s also lovely you have posted this message of hope. At the EPT we believe so strongly that mutual support can help us all to find peace emotionally much quicker by being able to read each other’s experiences so we know we aren’t alone or weird for feeling how we feel and by helping someone else feel better by messaging them we believe we also help ourselves at the same time.

I love miracles.

Much love,

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Thanks Genevieve, I feel so much more positive after reading your story. I’m going to try my hardest not to fear the worst. Hope you and baby are well :smiley:

So glad my story has given you hope :smiley: if I can help just one person see that all is not lost as I feared it was after an ectopic, even after 2 in both tubes, than that was my aim. I sometimes wondered if I should have had surgery on my remaining left tube an had it taken away, feeling at times like it was a ticking time bomb, so glad I didn’t (under statement!). I am now 8 weeks, 1 day pregnant and was given my due date at my first midwife appointment yesterday (8th July 2014). We’ve seen the heartbeat at an early 6 week scan which was a relief to say the least :!: .

Please do not give up hope, and try to stay as positive as possible…ectopic pregnancy does not mean the end, it just means a different journey for us, certainly doesn’t mean we won’t have babies. Wish I had known this in the early days, cause even the medical profession can not always predict how things will turn out for you, xxx

Ive just cried my way through this! So happy for you, I am pregnant too and just hoping that mine is in the uterus too, thank you for giving me some hope! x

Big congratulations to you,I hope it will be me one day,I have my lovely 2 years old but we had one ectopic,lost tube,I have PCOS and my husband low sperm count and we are Catholics so we can’t have IVF. SO I am hoping with God help it could be me one day giving sibling for our Anna. God bless.big hug to you.Katie xx

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This is an amazing story!!!

I thought that MTX meant your tube was automatically damaged but obviously not!

Congratulations and thank you for posting

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