My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 7 years now. After 4 years I eventually fell pregnant, it was ectopic and I had to have my left tube removed. 7 months later I found out I was pregnant again which was amazing considering how long it had took us before! I started bleeding at 5 weeks 
I wasnāt scanned but told to do a test in a week, it was negative so considered a miscarriage. Fast forward to 2016 and I find out Iām pregnant again! Terrified by my history but hoping this was it, I was devistated when I started bleeding again. Turned out to be ectopic in my abdomen on the right hand side but caught early enough to be treated with MTX. To my complete suprise I found out I was pregnant again 4 months later. This time I was terrified, I still wanted a baby desperately but didnāt now how I was going to handle losing another one, so you can imagine my distress when I again started bleeding. Again there was no scan but I was told my hcg levels were low so it was probably coming away naturally and to test in week, it was negative, another miscarriage. (I do wish that I could have been scanned during my miscarriages to no if any of my babies have actually been in the right place). Anyway since then I have started taking medication for depression but have been working hard to get my body healthy in the hope that one day I will carry a healthy pregnancy. Last week I found out I was pregnant again but started bleeding moderately on Sunday, the bleeding has continued until the last few days where it tapered off and today I have had nothing, due to the amount of blood I had I assumed I was having an early miscarriage, I didnāt go to hospital because I no they would have just told me to check in a week so instead of wasting there time and mine I have just left it. Devastated of course. Since the bleeding has tapered off I decided to do a preganacy test which turned out to be a very positive pregnancy test, much darker than the one I took the day before I started bleeding. Part of me hopes that the bleeding looked worse because I have low platelets but the realist in me is just to scared to go back to hospital and do it all again. Iād love to hear some success stories that may give me hope for the future, and hope that signing up to this forum may one day give me the opportunity to help some one else x
Hi Donna Iām so.sorry for your losses. Unfortunately no success story here but can I please urge you to go to hospital and get scanned as you are at higher risk of an ectopic. Your gp should be able to refer you given your history. I have had2 as a result of ivf so had early scans so they were detected this way before rupture (just about for the second one). I really hope this pregnancy is in the right place and works out for you but please do get checked out. All the best x
Hi again also thought Iād add with any pregnancy I think you need to get an early scan so please talk to your GP about this. You should be able to have some investigations now which could help but right now please look after yourself and get that scan.
Sorry to press this point but with my last ectopic my HCG was rising normally even though I was bleeding so the hospital put off scanning me (as I was due an early scan at the IVF clinic in the next few days) but I ended up going into hospital due to pain and having my tube removed as an emergency. I know itās really awful and you donāt want to go through it again and I completely understand but it is necessary (and best case scenario might provide reassurance it is in the right place). x
Dear Donna and Toby,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancies and losses, to experience one loss is difficult to deal with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.
Whispered congratulations on your pregnancy, I too would urge you to speak to your GP to be referred for a scan.
Whilst I do not wish to alarm you if you experience any unusual bleeding, abdominal pain,shoulder tip pain, bladder or bowel problems or feel dizzy and unwell please seek urgent medical advice.
Sending much love and positive thoughts,
Karen x
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Sorry to hear of your losses Sara. Just though I would update this thread: I went to the hospital, my hcg levels were very low - 12 - so no more ectopic worries here ājustā another early loss it really bothers me that I have to smile and be releaved about this after 7 years of trying.
Hi Donna Iām so sorry itās so cruel after such a long time. Iām glad you managed to get checked out, please look after yourselves x
Hi Donna and Toby,
Iām so sorry for your losses and this recent one too. Itās heartbreaking to hear that you have been through so much. Life is cruel and unpredictable and just not fair sometimes.
Have you ever received counselling? Iād recommend it if itās something you havenāt tried, it helped me to process my own loss and the different ways that my husband and I were dealing with it. Trying to conceive had taken over our lives and was just chipping away at us month by month.
My ectopic was in June 2016, our first baby, my left tube ruptured and had to be removed. It took us 16 months to fall pregnant again and I was losing hope at that point that it would ever happen for us.
I hope you are getting lots of support from family and friends. Take care xx
SaraR:
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