Struggling with TTC following scar ectopic

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Hi, I haven’t posted on here before however have found all the posts quite comforting to read as I don’t feel so alone, I’ve been nervous to post but feel strong enough now, so here goes … I had a scar ectopic last September and had an operation to remove the foetus as it was found quite late. We decided to start trying again in December to no avail. I’m starting to feel really frustrated and devastated at the same time each time my period comes. My previous 2 pregnancies only took a couple of cycles of TTC. I’m becoming obsessed looking for signs that aren’t there. It’s so hard to talk with people around me because they just don’t understand the utter hopelessness I feel.

Sorry for the long post.

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Hi Rlt,

I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this worrying time. I know how difficult TTC after an ectopic pregnancy can be, especially looking for signs of pregnancy. If you are still wanting to TTC, it may be worth speaking to your GP about fertility tests and options. I do not know your age, but options may be available.

While generally, it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.

In terms of TTC, the Trust recommend having regular sex, which means having sex every 2/3 days throughout the month. Guidance from the UK’s National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence advises that having sex around the time when the woman ovulates causes stress and is not recommended. We here at the EPT suggest having intercourse 2/3 times between days 10-20 of their cycle when trying to conceive.

Making the decision to begin trying to conceive is an emotional rollercoaster compounded by our sad loss. Again, you are not alone. We are here whenever you need us.

With good wishes,

Michele

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Hi Rlt,

My heart goes out to you, it’s such a difficult process that is only really understood by people that have been through it themselves.

I had my ectopic in December, although we have only just started trying again I feel devastated that I got my period. I convinced myself I was pregnant, had headaches dizziness and my throat had a metal taste. I feel like I’m going crazy did I just make all those symptoms up in my head. My partner tells me to just relax but I’m really struggling with that.

I totally understand you, and send you lots of love and hope. It’s hard hearing people around you say things will be ok. I don’t know about you but I have friends that are pregnant and I’m really struggling with that at the moment.

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Hi Stayls89+

Yes it is devastating and sounds silly but to hear people are thinking and doing the same as me make me feel a bit less crazy! I to have friends that were pregnant at the same time as me so have just had their babies, which is wonderful and I’m obviously thrilled that they are here and healthy. Our baby would have been due next week which I think is adding to the upset just lately. These are things you can’t always share with people around you without them thinking your selfish or jealous. Thank you for sharing your story with me xx

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Hi Rlt,

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I can understand you must be feeling upset. I am trying to tell myself my time will come to become a mummy. Trying to put my focus into other things and not constantly be thinking am I pregnant/what’s going on in that 2 week wait. It’s going to be so hard to do. My sister in law said she didn’t think about it and just relaxed and she got pregnant straight away. It’s harder for us though, but we can do it. If you ever want to talk I’m always here xx

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Hello everybody,

Thanks for your testimonies. They help a lot. I am TTC for 2 months now without success. I had an ectopic pregnancy 8 months ago that was treated with MTX. Good luck for everybody and stay strong! :muscle: