Hi. I had a Caesarean scar ectopic pregnancy back in December 2023. Which ended with surgery in January 2024. I had laparoscopic surgery with my scar being repaired also. After I was told to wait one year till I try again. Which is now! I feel ready to in a way but then the fear comes to me and then I don’t feel ready. I’m full of anxiety that something like this will happen again. But I know anytime I try again the fear is always going to be there, I’m never going to have a pregnancy that will not be full of anxiety because of my previous pregnancy loss. I have a son (1 previous c section) prior to my scar ectopic. I would love to make him a big brother.
So I’m just looking for positive story’s of anyone who has had a successful pregnancy after a csep. Or any advice on dealing with anxiety and fear with trying again after pregnancy loss?
Thanks.
Dear nade,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss. It is really common to feel anxious about trying to conceive following ectopic pregnancy (I did too, an I was only able to relax a little after the early pregnancy scan)
I am aware of the complications surrounding c-section scar ectopic pregnancies and they can be difficult to navigate through, so i understand your worries about it happening again. It maybe comforting to know that there is a 90% chance the embryo will be in the right place next time and of course, don’t forget to book in for that early pregnancy scan at 6 weeks.
Making the decision to begin trying to conceive is an emotional rollercoaster compounded by our sad loss. Again, you are not alone, we are here for emotional support whenever you need us. There is also a Preparing For Your Next Pregnancy board which you can look at whenever you feel ready.
Sending much love,
Karen x
Hello @nade-93 we spoke last year when we had a similar ectopic experience at the same time. I noticed an email in my junk emails which appears to be a response from yourself to our last conversion. However I couldn’t see it when I logged on. I’m glad I have seen this post and was able to reach out again.
I hope you are well. I wanted to say what you are feeling is completely understandable and normal. Once again I feel the same way, I am so worried, anxious and scared about trying again that I don’t think I will ever have the courage to go for it. My ectopic experience has had a huge impact on my life over the last year
Hello!
Yeah I hadn’t been on here for a long time and I found my previous posts and felt like checking in. And then I deleted my post as i thought it might have been weird after a year 
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Thank you for posting on here. It really is so hard the anxiety etc.
Hope you have been well?
Since I wrote this post me and my partner did decide to go ahead and try which felt like a massive step but has made me full of anxiety and like an emotional mess. It’s so hard! To not be scared.
Oh no… Don’t worry I thought it was nice of you to reach out not weird. As I approached the year mark since my loss and surgery I found my self becoming very emotional again and feel slightly alone as I didn’t feel people would understand a year on.
As I mentioned I still have many ups and downs mentally. Additional, since surgery I have experienced many physical changed, mainly unexplained cramping. How are you? Do you feel you have fully recovered?
That’s great news you have taken the decision to try again. It takes a lot of courage and of course you will feel anxious and worried but take each day as it comes and keep positive.
Oh good haha.
Yes exactly that, the year mark felt very emotional. And definitely felt alone many times through the year like no one really understands.
Oh no. Did you have it checked out?
I didn’t get signed off till around June I think it was as my retained product took a fair time to dissolve and I was told to wait a year from surgery till I try again for good healing. When the products had gone the cramping stopped and I got my periods back. So I think I healed okay. After that it was more mentally I struggled with. I think i accepted it more now,But it just hurts to think about and will always hurt.
It’s nice to know I’m not alone with how I am feeling, thank you for taking to time to post about your experience. It has been really helpful for me.
No, I mentioned it before getting discharged and they said I may just be more aware of the pains. I’m not sure I agree with that but if it continues I will seek advice again.
I think you made the right decision to allow your body the time it needs to heal and not rush it. I have everything crossed that you that it is smooth sailing this time round. I agree, I have definitely come to terms with it more now. However some days the emotions creep up on me and it floods back. Hopefully over time we will be able to manage then slight better but of course it will always be hard.