I had an ectopic pregnancy July 2017 & i went straight onto the pill but its been a year on and i finally feel ready to try again i stopped my pill last month & we started trying again this month im so excited to see a positive test but every time i think about it i get so scared of losing another baby i get so worked up about it that i even start to think im feeling the same pains in the side i had my tube removed & that im bleeding heavly so i rush to the toilet & nothing its all in my head but my partner says if its meant to be it will happen if it doesnt then it wont. I see all these people with baby bumps or small babies i just cant help but feel broody but im so worried of going through it all again to lose my baby & i dont think i could handle it again but i so badly want another baby has anyone got any advice or suggestions?
Thanks
Dear Iccle_princess,
It is normal to feel anxious about the future. We experience a mix of emotions from wanting to try again to being petrified of what may lie ahead. We never forget but we can learn to accept what happened. It is a slow process that might be weeks or months ahead. In time, we can get to a place where we feel comfortable trying again. When this is, is individual for each person. There is no timeframe for recovery, take each day as it comes.
Importantly early scans avail. As soon as you know you are pregnant, contact your local EPU to inform them and book in for an early scan at around six weeks. Remind them of your previous ectopic pregnancy. This self refer route is the best route in our view. Hopefully you will have some comfort to know you are under the radar of medical professionals right away.
I completely understand what a nerve wracking time it is, sadly there is no way to prevent ectopic pregnancy, however it maybe comforting to know that the chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that’s 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.
Making the decision to begin trying to conceive is an emotional rollercoaster compounded by our sad loss. Again, you are not alone. We here emotional support whenever you need us.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Hi.
I am in exactly the same situation. Hubby and I are wanting to try again but I’m so scared it will happen all over again.
I’m really not sure how to go forward. I can’t get rid of this nagging voice in the back of my mind nd feel I can’t move forwards.
Rosie x
I had EP mid Dec, I found some YouTube guided meditation to be helpful!
hi,
t is typical to feel on edge about what’s to come. We experience a blend of feelings from needing to attempt again to being petrified of what may lie ahead. We always remember yet we can figure out how to acknowledge what occurred. It is a moderate procedure that may be weeks or months ahead. In time, we can get to a spot where we feel great attempting once more. At the point when this is, is individual for every individual. There is no time allotment for recuperation, accept every day as it comes.
Significantly early outputs benefit. When you realize you are pregnant, contact your neighborhood EPU to illuminate them and book in for an early sweep at around about a month and a half. Help them to remember your past ectopic pregnancy. This self alludes course is the best course in our view. Ideally, you will have some solace to realize you are under the radar of therapeutic experts immediately.
I wish I could give increasingly exact data, yet as I don’t approach your and your accomplice’s restorative records, it is troublesome for me to give explicit subtleties. For the most part, we and numerous medicinal services experts exhort keeping a sound adjusted eating routine, keeping up a solid weight and refraining from liquor and smoking.
Significantly, help is accessible if imagining normally has not yet been effective after some time attempting - and the EPT prompts that ladies under 35 should look for therapeutic counsel following a year endeavoring to consider and those more than 35 should look for exhortation following a half year.
The odds of a further ectopic after a first in the UK is 10%. With the goal that’s 90% possibility of the incipient organism being in the ideal spot next time.
While for the most part, it is conceivable to imagine after an ectopic pregnancy, the measure of the time it takes shifts from couple to couple. Components incorporate age, general wellbeing, regenerative wellbeing and how frequently you engage in sexual relations, in addition to other things. It might comfort realize that 65% of ladies are effectively pregnant inside a year and a half of encountering an ectopic pregnancy and a few examinations propose this ascent to around 85% following two years.
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I am so glad it’s not just me that is absolutely terrified. I really want to try again, but I’ve only had two AFs since my ectopic in Feb. This month I believe I am currently 5 dpo and have been getting similar cravings (I really had a thing for scotch eggs with my ectopic, and I’m suddenly thinkin of them again), my aversion to coffee has returned and I have had some cramping a on the left side (the side I still have) I am so scared! I would be so so happy if I was expecting again but I’m terrified of having another ectopic.
I know 5dpo is really early and I have no idea whether this is all in my head because I am so anxious, all I can do is wait for AF in 10 days (according to my tracker) x