Got given the ok to try 3 cycles ago Ectopic pregnancy wasn’t planned but wasn’t unwanted. I’m temping, ovulation kits and cervical mucus charting, acupuncture and cupping and still no pregnancy. I’m envious of everyone who’s pregnant and feel resentful towards them. I’m putting myself under so much pressure which I’m sure isn’t helping. Please tell me I’m not the only one.
Omg!!! You are not alone!!! I am have become obsessed with forums related ectopics and pregnancy. I do ultrsound and i scan myself everyday at work to see if i am close to ovulation or af. I talk my husband’s ear off about ttc again. Its stressful to me all i can think about is when will i get that bfp again!! I havent yet been given the ok to ttc i have to wait 1 more cycle. Which i plan on doing but that hasnt stopped the obsessing. I have differnt prgnancy apps on my phone i check 100s of times a day. Its ridiculous.
We will get our bfps in time. We just need to stop stressing and be patient… Ph and of course have some fun (wink wink).
To be honest the fun is gone for us, it’s become a chore. We have family visiting (we live in oz) both Nov and Dec so would like to stop trying for those two months a) our bed is noisy and b) I want to enjoy them being here. So I’m hoping that helps the stress levels but I don’t know if I’m lying to myself. I just feel like such a failure. We’re put on earth to do one thing and right now I can’t do that.
Enjoy your family hopefully it takes your mind of TTC. Dont be so hard on yourself it will happen on due time. Everything takes time.
Yeah thanks. I think I’ll go into planning itinerary mode for their holiday. Distraction!
Dear Marmoannie,
I very much understand that strong desire to conceive. I appreciate how frustrating it can be if it isn’t happening as quickly as we would like, but you certainly are not a failure. Conceiving successfully can take time and can take some couples more than a year or so.
Trying to conceive again can be a challenging time for couples especially after experiencing loss.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things.
I wish I could give more precise information, but as I do not have access to your and your partner’s medical records, it is difficult for me to provide specific details. Generally, we and many healthcare professionals advise keeping a healthy balanced diet, maintaining a healthy weight and abstaining from alcohol and smoking.
Importantly, help is available if conceiving naturally has not yet been successful after some time trying - and the EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months. As you have been trying for over a year, I would think it worthwhile speaking to your doctors who can look into any appropriate tests for you and your partner and investigate further.
In addition. having regular sex means having sex every 2/3 days throughout the month. Guidance from the UK’s National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence advises that having sex around the time when the woman ovulates causes stress and is not recommended. We here at the EPT suggest having intercourse 2/3 times between days 10-20 of their cycle when trying to conceive. We also have information on our website.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Thank you Karen! All points taken on board!
I’ve just left work in tears because I got my period. Two girls I work with have told me they are pregnant this week. My due date is next week and I’m really struggling to cope. I’m fed up of the disappointment every month. Helps to know I am not alone x
Oh you poor thing. Our emotions are so out of our control. I had my husbands best friend tell me “you have no idea how hard it is having a newborn” I felt like saying “you have no idea how hard it is losing a baby” he didn’t mean it (he’s known for being insensitive) but tears ran down my face when I was on the phone to him.