Hi,
Just wanted to thank this place as reading posts as really helped me, it’s nice that people can be honest and see that it’s not just you.
We had been trying for nearly 4 years when miraculously we conceived naturally ( we had been told that IVF would be our best option). We were thrilled but knew that an ectopic was a possibility as both my tubes have lots of scaring. Had an ectopic 2 weeks ago and lost our little seed of hope, we were devastated. Getting pregnant was a huge blessing and it felt amazing. They took out my left tube. Feeling exhausted and still getting pains, particularly when I have done things. At times I feel ok other times the tears just roll and roll. Got another 2 weeks off work and petrified about going back. Worry about not ever being able to cope again.
My lovely in laws had booked to take us to Disney world in October. When we found out we were expecting we planned not to go as I would have been 7months. They now need an answer by next week if we are going or not. I’m so uncertain what to do. If we go we can’t start trying again until the holiday and if we don’t go we can start once I have my next period.
I’m so confused. I want to try again quickly especially since we have waited so long to get to the possibility of being pregnant but I know my body needs rest ( previous laparoscopy only 2 months before ectopic) and obviously so scared of it all happening again. My husband is desperate to go but says he is happy if we don’t as he just wants what’s best for me. A holiday would be lovely although I have reservations about flying (haven’t flown for 10 years!!!) but waiting 5 months feels a long time. My concern is we could not get pregnant again and then if we said we wouldn’t I know we would be kicking ourselves.
Please does anyone have any pearls of wisdom as I’m struggling and need to make a decision quick.
Thanks you xx