I had surgery for a ruptured right tube in April when I was 7 weeks pregnant. Without planning we found out 5 weeks later we was expecting again, which we were very shocked about. The hospital have been amazing and I had early scans at 5 weeks and again at 7, before being placed onto routine scans and care. I know people do have difficulty trying to conceive naturally especially after an ectopic pregnancy, so I understand how lucky we are to be in this situation. However I am unable to stop worrying and can’t let myself relax and enjoy the pregnancy. I am currently 19 weeks + 3 days and have been told everything is well. We have seen our baby and heartbeat a number of times even paying for private scans for extra reassurance. Yet I am still unable to enjoy it and feel emotionally connected to my baby. It feels like I am waiting for something to happen or at times like the news hasn’t sunk in and doesn’t feel real, even though I am feeling baby move at this stage. I feel stupid at times knowing how lucky I am and i should be enjoying these precious moments. But I just can’t shake this feeling of worry. Has anyone else experienced feelings like this?
Dear Kate32,
Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I certainly wasn’t able to relax until after my 12 week scan, and even then I worried until the day my baby was in my arms. I think this is only natural after the ordeal of ectopic pregnancy and loosing a baby. Having said this however, if your feelings are becoming overwhelming and you are struggling through your pregnancy, please speak to your midwife or GP, who maybe able to offer you additional support during this time.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Thanks Karen, I keep getting told I am bound to feel anxious after everything. I feel like the last few months have all been abit of a blur from originally finding out I was pregnant as it happened so quick. I have my 20 week scan on Wednesday so hopefully that will help ease my worries a little bit more.
Hi I’m the same I am currently 30 weeks and still worrying and want the baby to arrive safely. It’s natural to worry but try to relax I know it’s hard but Iv had to try and relax as well as not healthy for baby.
Hi, it is so hard. I keep telling myself to relax and everything is ok but its like something is holding me back. I think because it all happened so quickly everyone just expects that I have healed from the ectopic and it’s all about the new baby, when to be honest I am still trying to mentally process alot of it.
I know it most be extremely stressful but it is important to try and relax as much as possible.
I have had 2 ectopic, my most recent last week and I am praying that one day I will go on to having a healthy pregnancy.
Have you tried a Fetal Doppler Stethoscope
It allows you to hear your babies heartbeat at home so maybe that will put your mind at ease hearing you little bean every morning or night.
Good luck and hope all goes perfectly xx
Hope your scan went ok
Thanks Kamee, I have seen them but think I may become obsessed and want to hear it all the time. Then if it changes or for some reason doesn’t sound the same I would most probably panic myself. Best leaving it to the midwives. Hope you have your good news one day when you are ready.
Thanks nd2626, scan went well. All seemed well and was moving around alot. Confirmed it’s a girl. Feeling better this last week and allowed myself to enjoy buying some things. Hope your pregnancy is going well.
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