I have had a little look at this site over the past year but never registered. Ok this is my story if anyone could help.
I had a ruptured ectopic in my ovary that required emergency surgery in July 2015. I already have three children with another partner. My pregnancy was a complete surprise and only found out that day before rushing into hospital.
My partner and I are ready to expand our family, and give him a biological family of his own (although he is a fab step-dad) the only problem is i am absolutely terrified something is gonna happen again. I think it was the whole ‘emergency situation’- I mean, when I got home I was still in shock and thought to myself ‘i could have been dead now’! It had ( and still has) frightened the life out of me and the fact my children could have been left without a mother!
Tbh I am still not 100% over the experience. But I think I never will be, although it has got better with time. My stomach still looks swollen, although I think that’s from me being so scared to use my stomach muscles after surgery.
Any help, or someone that is in the same boat would be greatly appreciated.
I don’t want to let fear stop me from having another baby, and the clock is ticking.
Hi I feel the same way. I had an ectopic last Aug, it was our first baby so after all the trauma I now feel ready to conceive again so just started trying however I am petrified of it happening again. I know when my period is due I’ll be a nervous wreck. Awful situation to be in when planning a baby should be an exciting time xxx
Yeah just started trying a couple of weeks ago so my next af will be the telling time and I’m already dreading it waiting for it to come and if it’s another ectopic. It’s so scary
Hi Katie just thought I’d post and see how things are going? Did you and your partner decide to ttc? It was my first month this month and I got my af which I expected really as I didn’t expect to fall that quick. Very very nervous when it comes to the time when I expect my af in case it’s another ectopic xx
Hi Katie got a positive pregnancy test on Thursday, rang epac and got a scan booked for 23rd absolutely terrified incase it’s another ectopic! Are you ok x
I know how terrified u feel when u try after an ectopic. However, if only it helps, i want to highlight that the chances of having an intrauterine pregnancy after 1 ectopic is still pretty fair ie/ 60-80%. So u can always stay positive thinking about the statistics. Although whatever has to happen will happen, but as of now, atleast the odds are in our favour to begin with!! All the best.
Hi girls I wish you all the best I also didn’t know I was pregnant until the night before very scary yes I no and were all hear for u lots of people on here have had amazing success stories and there’s always someone to talk to day or night we will reply xxx u r not alone and as hard as it is try to relax and enjoy your trying to conceive best off luck xxxxx