Hi,
I have not posted on here in sometime as my EP was in March 2011 resulting in my right tube removed. I very luckily conceived 9 months later and have a healthy 2 year old. I would dearly love another child to complete my family and at 36 I feel the time is right.
However I am absolutely terrified of another ectopic happening again and it is making trying an off thing and when I have been trying I am so anxious waiting for my period that I become very distressed and ill from worrying if I did get pregnant it might be an ectopic.
With my healthy pregnancy after the EP i did not relax and had some spotting a few times which sent me into a tailspin and I was fearful of something going wrong every day pretty much. How do I get over this fear and just go for it? I really want to get past this block and it may seem strange that I still fear one even though my next pregnancy was in the right place.
Am I over worrying and I should believe the bad tube has gone now?
Is there someone I can speak to about my fears? I just feel such a pressure to try or i will miss my chance and always regret it.
Hi Butterfly14,
Sorry to hear about the ectopic you went through. I know how traumatic an ordeal it is. It really takes it’s toll. But on the other hand big congrats on ur healthy baby. 
I had my ectopic just over nine weeks ago with my left tube being removed and it’s still obviously very fresh. But I think it’s something that’s going to stay with me forever anyway. I can’t imagine it’s something you ever 100% get over. I think it’s something that we just have to try and carry on from. When I had my follow up appt a couple of weeks ago I was told that my remaining tube looks healthy and hopefully should be okay in the future. The consultant said that his guess was that it was just bad luck. And although I didn’t like to hear that at the time I guess he could be right. I know of quite a few people who had an ectopic and then went on to have two or three kids. So I suppose in some cases it is just a terrible one off. I would think in your case the fact that you went on to get pregnant and have a successful and healthy pregnancy is a very positive sign for you. I can understand ur hesitation because the ectopic that u went through is probably something u will never forget but try be positive and remember that everything worked out well the last time so that bodes well for the future for you I would hope xxx