I am back on here after a very long break, busy with our lovely IVF boy (now 6). We always had one embryo (blastocyst) in storage after our successful treatment. Much as I have always wanted a brother or sister for our son, I haven’t been able to bring myself to dive back in to having treatment (many reasons including fear of ectopic, financial, career, etc.). I have just turned 41 and really felt that it was now or never and we made the decision to go for it. I had the embryo transferred on Friday and am feeling completely freaked out by the whole experience and awful from the meds but trying to hang on in there. I haven’t told anyone at all this time and am feeling very lonely. 12 days of uncertainty to get through now and trying not to be paranoid about twinges/spotting!.
Good luck! Nearly a week down for you, I hope your staying positive.
Well done with taking the step, I hope that it’s a positive one for you.
Let us know how you get on either way…
Have you told anyone now? Might be worth to confide in someone you trust? May help you process all your feels around it. And if you do tell someone, it won’t change the outcome, but you would have support nearer to home… Just a thought.
Thanks for the reply Mimis. Yes, nearly there but very twingy today and a bit of that dragging AF feeling so trying hard to keep the faith! Just 3 more days to get through! X
It’s a BFP! I can’t believe it as I have bled on and off right through this time (and still have a tiny bit now). I am trying to put the thought of a potential ectopic out of my mind now and to relax a little. ScoopsX
Bleeding more heavily this morning. I’m going to retest on Monday morning as I have to go in and get more meds if I am still pregnant. Trying to stay positive but …
Thanks for your support. Watching a film with my 6 year old with snacks and a hot water bottle on my tummy, all snuggled up. I can’t remember if I bled after testing positive last time, I don’t think so. but you’re right, it can be OK.
That sounds lovely, enjoy. I’m doing the same with my 3yr old, who just hurt his head.
Unfortunately you have no control, and have to go with it. It’s rubbish… the heart ache I went through each time is so easy to recall. It’s amazing how pregnancy/kids is non stop worry from the moment of conception onwards…!xx
Thanks for looking out for me! Well, bled on and off most of the weekend (and still a little now too). I was due to get more drugs today so I thought it was worth testing again first and it was still BFP. I got drugs to last me until my 7 week scan date (9th Nov) and am hanging on in there hoping for the best. It was a hard decision to get back on this rollercoaster and it’s far tougher than I remember. I am sure the Estrogen you have with FET is making me really grumpy too!
I hope you are well and thanks again for checking in!
Thanks Mimis. Scan is 9th Nov so holding out for that now. It will be just my second week in a new job and I’ll have to leave early so plenty of added stress! I was really annoyed yesterday as well because my clinic hadn’t told me that I would have to pay so much additional money for drugs now I am pregnant (will be medicated until 12 weeks). It shouldn’t really be a surprise in my opinion. They probably think I am completely ungrateful having had a BFP! Anyway, onwards and upwards - it is lovely to have someone to chat with on here. Scoops. xx
Hi Mimis. Thanks for your message. Sorry to hear about your son. I hope he is fully recovered now. I have my scan on Monday and am really nervous. I’ll let you know how I get on. Scoops. xx
Sadly, I did a test this afternoon as I was so worried about the spotting and I got a BFN. Me and my Hubs are both quite shocked as I haven’t had a proper bleed but I guess that will come when I stop taking the medication. It is the end of the line for me. So glad we have our precious boy who just turned 6 yesterday. XX
Oh scoops, I’m so sorry, I’m gutted for you… You must be devastated. You have a missed miscarriage, I had that for my 3rd, and 4th pregnancy. Stopped growing before I bleed properly. The second one took 3 weeks before I miscarried properly.
I hope everything resolves quickly and as pain free as possible for you.
Do you still go in tomorrow?
Big hugs xx
Congratulations to your son… Wow, 7yrs old! Did you do anything nice to celebrate?
I hope your ok, I’m here if you want to get feelings and thoughts off your mind xx
Hi Mimis. I spoke to the clinic today and they confirmed it is a mmc. I have stopped taking the medication now and waiting for things to resolve. have cried a lot today out of sheer disappointment. I know I need to pick myself up and get on (particularly being in a new job). Thanks for your support. xx