I had an ectopic in June with salpingectomy. It was pretty awful but I recovered emotionally and physically and I found out this weekend I am pregnant again.
Initially I was excited but as the days have gone on I feel more scared and isolated as I don’t feel I can tell anyone apart from partner about it.
Im so scared of another ectopic and every tiny twinge I am so aware of. To make matters worse I do seem to be quite bloated which is causing the odd pain. But nothing persistently on one side like before, and no spotting like I had before. Part of me feels I should be hopeful but the stakes are just so high.
I took guafenasin (mucinex) which is an old wives tale but it got me pregnant both times (2/9 times I took it and both of those times I got pregnant) however obviously the first time was ectopic so now I feel so stupid and if I have an ectopic I will blame myself for taking unadvised medication.
It’s all so scary and I feel sick thinking about what the possibilities are.
I just read your post and wanted you to know that I’m sending some good energy your way, wherever you are. I just found out today that Im pregnant (around 5.5 weeks - my cycles have been weird ao I delayed testing) and I very much relate to your nervourness. My ecoptic was treated last Feb with 2 doses of mtx and I’m still not over the trauma of the whole experience… I’ve been spotting for the last 4 days and started feeling dollars pain on the side of my ectopic which has me properly freaked out. I called my A&E clinic today and hope to get that early scan ASAP, but not sure how I’ll cope in the meantime.
All that to say: know that you’re not alone and that I’m thinking of you! Have you called for your early US? That seems like the only thing that’ll clam me down (or confirm my worst fears - hopefully not). Take care,
Thanks for your lovely message. When is you scan scheduled? Hope you get some answers soon and my fingers are crossed for you
I haven’t called EPU yet because only 4 weeks 3 days but I think I’ll call tomorrow and try and book it for 6 weeks or if not just before? Trouble is, 6 weeks falls on a Saturday so I don’t know if they’ll do it then…
I hope you’re getting on ok anyway.
I think it’s normal we are both scared, we’ve been through something traumatic.
I spoke to a counsellor today and she said to just try to look after myself and tell myself I am pregnant now. And to try relaxation techniques.
Thank you, Natasha! I hope you are doing well <3, how is your pregnancy going?
J, thank you for your kind words and aharing what your counsellor suggested. It’s so easy to get carried away by all the trauma and anticipation! But it is also point less… Let us know what you hear from the clinic.
The nurse at the clinic gave me an appointment for tmrw as I’m now at 5.5 weeks. There’s a chance, given that my cycle has sometimes been a bit longer recently, that it’ll be too early to find the pregnancy, but since I’ve been spotting for a few days and getting pain she said they wanted to see me now. Had my first blood draw today - flash-back from a few months ago. I’m really hoping things go well tmrw but am trying not to set expectations about the pregnancy. I will let you know what they find tmrw…
My scan wasn’t so good, sadly. The clinic diagnose at first diagnosed a second ectopic and strongly recommended I undergo surgery, and then the hospital said they actually couldn’t conclude 100% because they couldn’t see the yolk to confirm the mass in my tube is a gestation sac, and they saw some tiny stuff in my uterus they couldn’t identify because it was too small. I’ve been spotting/bleeding all week, too, so not looking so good. I’ve got another US and HCG test tmrw, and will likely be getting the tube removed then if they confirm the initial diagnostic…
I’m sorry what a stressful time. It all sounds very uncertain. I hope your partner is being supportive and you are doing ok with it all. My thoughts are with you for the second scan today.
Oh Cam I am so sorry it’s not better news, it sounds like a really stressful uncertain time and I hope that you have lots of support around you. Let us know how you get on with the second scan, thinking of you
Thanks for the supportive words. Second scan was just as confused, they initially thought I had ruptured and prepped me for surgery, then changed their mind when they got the HCG results and said it might be intra-uterine. But Saturday they did a third scan and confirmed ectopic, so I had surgery Sat to remove the tube…
Ljmp, let us know what you find out - I hope your news will be better than mine
I just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you, and really hoping that you received good news. I’m here if you feel the need to share whatever news you get and am sending some good energy your way. Xo
I’m so sorry for not replying sooner. I’m also so sorry about your ectopic and I hope you’re recovering ok. It was a tough time for me when I had the surgery but I got through it and I’m sure you will too. Be kind to yourself and draw on the people around you for comfort.
I had some bleeding last week and thought it was all over but the scan was ok….
Still very anxious a lot of the time tbh - after what I went through before I don’t know if I ever won’t be!
I’m really happy for your news, though I can only imagine how anxiety inducing it can be. I’m sorry you had to go through the worry of bleeding and having to wait for a scan. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you and hope that things continue to be positive. Take good care, and thank you for your kind words . Xo
what a stressful time. It all sounds very uncertain. I hope your partner is being supportive and you are doing ok with it all. My thoughts are with you for the second scan today.