My story and to give hope.

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Hi everyone,

I just wanted to come back on here to tell my story and hopefully give some hope to people who have recently gone through an ectopic pregnancy.

I had an ectopic pregnancy back in may 2017. It was a horrific experience and left me with no left tube. I honestly honestly thought I was going to die when I was wheeled down to theatre and initially I was just so relieved when I woke up alive. However, this quickly faded and I felt completely traumatised about the loss of my baby and how close I came to death. I had awful panic attacks when trying to fall asleep at night and thought I would never get pregnant again.

I had 8 weeks off of work and it took me this long to recover mentally from the experience. It is by far the most challenging thing that has ever happened to me and took me to a very dark and sad place.

We wait for two cycles as advised and started trying again. I was lucky in that my period came back quite quickly and so by July we were ready to try again. I am sat here now almost 25 weeks pregnant with what seems to be a healthy baby girl. I am incredibly lucky that we fell first time, I honestly felt as though it would never happen and that our dreams of a baby were doomed.

I wanted to share this, to try and give hope to people in the stages of recovery that I was in last year. I know how tough it is and how you feel as though you are in a dark dark hole that you just can’t get out of. It does get better, I promise. Take each day slowly and remind yourself that you will be ok and you won’t feel like this forever. Try to keep positive, think about the good things in your life and as hard as it is, try to take the positives from the situation - you can get pregnant and you absolutely will again.

Giving virtual hugs to everyone going through this, I’m crying my eyes out as I type as it’s just so horrific xx

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Dear Melissa1987,

Congratulations on your pregnancy and thank you so much for posting your experience and giving hope to so many.

Sending much love,

Karen x

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Love this post :heart: I’m just over 5weeks post op (ectopic right tube removal) I recovered physically pretty fast but emotionally I’m nit even half way there. Your story gives me hope x thank u for sharing and I hope u have a happy and healthy pregnancy xx

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Thank you very much for this post. I am definitely in the dark space and hope to be able to start TTC again in a month or two.

It is kind of you to share your story, and I really hope you have a healthy final trimester.

All the best,

E xxxx

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Thank you all for the good wishes.

I am always happy to chat to anyone, answer questions about the recovery etc if anyone thinks it would be helpful. I know being able to talk to others who understood how I felt, really helped me to come out of the horrible place that I was in.

Best wishes xx

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Just to update this post.

I had a healthy baby girl on 6th April. I fell pregnant on our first try after my ectopic and right tube removal in May 2017.

Please don’t give up hope, it can and will happen for you xx