Hi everyone im 20 years old . It took me a whole year of ttc and finally this year of feb. 2014 I had a positive pregnancy test and I was so excited to finally be pregnant but the next month of march I started bleeding and having sharp pains in my lower abdominal so I went to the ER and was told it was ectopic and I had to have surgery to have my right tube removed along with my baby so my pregnancy ended in march , I try to be positive that I will have better luck the next time around and I had another positive test a few months later of july 2014 i was nervous but tryed to be positive but my baby stopped growing at 7 weeks and I had miscarried at 11 weeks so that ended last month of september (also the month of my 20th birthday) and im so scared to try again i mean whats going to be next another ectopic or another miscarriage and I have a tilted uterus so my chances of another miscarriage is high… I know this because my sister has had 4 miscarriages and the dr had told her is due to having a tilted uterus so I have a BIG FEAR of not being able to have a nother baby ( I had a baby when I was 16 . Hes now 3 years old)
Im so depressed and I dont know if I can stay positive anymore all I do is cry it would be nice to talk with someone who understands what im going through.
Hi Candice,
I am sorry to hear what you are going through, your story is very similar to mine.
I am 29 and had a left tube removal in February this year (just over 6 weeks ectopic pregnancy). I then found out I was pregnant last month but sadly had a “chemical pregnancy” at 5 weeks. I too have a tilted uterus and have had treatment on my cervix this year but Doctors are still really positive about my chances of pregnancy despite all the negatives.
I have up and down days and everything in between days but am trying to remain positive.
My thoughts go out to you and if you ever need any support, I am here going through what you are x
Dear Elderflower,
I,m so sorry that you’re going through the same situation as me.
I understand that it’s hard to remain positive after losing 2 babies. I’ve even gained 8 pounds from being depressed from losing 2 of my babies and having so much fear of not being able to carry a baby to full term. So I totally understand that its hard to think positive but the most positive thing you and I should keep telling ourself is we still have 1 more tube left so we still have a chance to try again. Something else thats helping me stay positive is im changing the way that I eat and drink, even though I do believe that my tilted uterus was the reason for my miscarriage but im trying to tell myself that maybe the miscarriage came from me not getting enough of the right kind of food and from me drinking too much soda. So yes im trying to eat healthy and drink lots of water to get my body more prepared for a baby.
And if u need anybody to chat with then im here for u also if u want to u can add me on my personal facebook account. facebook email is : candicegantt14@live.com and user name is Candy Gantt