Just looking for hope from someone who were in the same situation…
I had ectopic pregnancy in June 2014 which resulted in left tube removal.
I was so heartbroken and scared. Was worried I won’t get pregnant. To my surprise just before Christmas got bfp. Exactly 6 month post operation. Me and my partner were so relieved and excited. Everything went so well. Had an early scan at 6 weeks and little bean was in the womb. Had another scan 10 days later, saw a healthy heartbeat though baby measured 1.5 weeks smaller than the dates would suggest. No one were concerned and put it down to my longer cycle. Last week we went for a 12 week scan just to find out that my baby’s heart stopped at 10 weeks. I chose medical management and passed baby at home next day. I can’t explain how heartbroken I am. Worry myself sick that there’s something wrong with me and I can’t carry a healthy pregnancy.
I am so scared that next one will be ectopic again. Is there a chance that if this baby made it to where it should be ectopic not likely to happen again?
Sorry for your loss and I totally understand how heartbroken you must be feeling as I too have had 1 miscarriage and then after waiting nearly 1 full year to be emotionally ready to try again it took us nearly another full year to fall pregnant which to my horror turned out to be an Ectopic, I too ruptured and had to have my left tube removed and just 1 month later after my period we tried again to the double disappointment of a second Ectopic! So I totally understand your grief and your sadness and how scared you must be, I really am sorry that you are going through this! But I think you should take some comfort in the fact that your baby this time did make it to the womb and it did live, however short but it did have a heartbeat and live to 10 weeks! You should take comfort in that and when you emotionally feel stronger try again and I hope with all my heart you will have good news the next time! xx
I suffered two losses as well one a miscarriage and one an ectopic only three months apart. We just started trying again and I’m scared too. I wish I had a success story to give you hope but you are not alone. Although my husbands aunt and a friend of mine had a ectopic and had kids after. im sorry for your losses I truly hope you have brighter days in the near future.
So sorry for what you’re going through. I had an ectopic treated medically last july, fell 3m later but miscarried at about 7 weeks. We are ttc again now, even though I’m terrified! I think I want it so badly now it is worth taking the risk as it may happen in the end, and if I don’t try I’ll never know! I was concerned as my tubes were not checked after my ectopic, but my miscarriage made me feel slightly more positive in that at least the baby got to the right place that time. With early pregnancy losses it is usually something amiss with the baby which means is cannot continue to survive and is nothing you have done. Unfortunately on the NHS we would have to suffer 3 miscarriages (ectopic doesn’t count) before any investigations can take place. I think I may go to my GP just to ask for a blood screen though, I’m assuming you had recent bloods done? Everyone on these forums is here for you, you are not alone, I think only people who have had the same experiences can truly know what it feels like.
Hi, I just wanted to let you know that I have experienced both of these (ectopic and missed miscarriage) but mine happened to be in a different order and I have two children now, aged 3 and 4. I had a missed miscarriage at 12.5 weeks before my first child and an ectopic after my second. But I could easily have had them subsequently instead and I just wanted to reassure you that this is not an indicator that you can’t have children. Hang on in there! x
So I totally understand your grief and your sadness and how scared you must be, I really am sorry that you are going through this! But I think you should take some comfort in the fact that your baby this time did make it to the womb and it did live, however short but it did have a heartbeat and live to 10 weeks! You should take comfort in that and when you emotionally feel stronger try again and I hope with all my heart you will have good news the next time! xx