Happy new year ladies!
I’d like to take this opertunity to wish you all the best for 2014.
I hope you all have some luck this year in getting your little bundle of joy.
I wish you and your family all the best for 2014.
Baby dust to you all xx
Hi guy,
I hope everyone has had a great new year 
This year I’ve decided to try the art of positive thinking I will have a healthy, successful pregnancy this year and I hope everyone here will too
How is everyone getting on?
sarah x
Sarah, happy new year. I have also decided to go down the positive thinking route!
Hopefully it will help! Roll on my tube test date January 29th. Positive thoughts!
X
Hi ladies
I’m Ttc for first time since Sept EP. Good to know we can all do a virtual hand hold! AF due on Sat 11th I reckon. Am trying not to panic and think positively instead but it is kind of taking over my thoughts at mo. Last time I tested neg, had what i thought was AF then tested a week later because things inside felt funny. That kicked off whole hospitalisation process. So I reckon I’ll be an obsessive tester. But if we don’t try it’ll never happen, that’s what I keep telling myself.
Anyway just wanted to join this thread and say good luck to you all. Sending lots of positivity.
Xx
Thanks ladies, hoping 2014 holds much joy for us both in the baby realm and otherwise.
XX
Welcome peacelilly i hope ur stay with us is a short one obsetive testing is part and paecel of ttc after an ep my hubby keeps joking about taking shares out in a testing company lol
Shibon the 29th will roll around quickly and i hope it gives u the answers u want, a plan of action and that everything is good
My hubby has started to compaire himself with a horse out to stud lol he hates being held to a timetable where as im a very practicle germany who plans around my cycle lol does anyone elses oh get fed up with having to perform (sorry cwnt think of another way of putting it) when in fertile period?
I hope everyone is getting on well ?
Sarah xx
I can totally relate, Sarah, I just tell my husband when my fertile time is over. We have a good arrangement like that, if I told him when we were supposed to be intimate he’d feel enormous pressure to perform. He’s fine with this arrangement, but I most certainly did talk to him about it first. I wouldn’t advocate just not telling him anything!
It’s tough on our partners, they so desperately want to help. I have trouble talking to my hubby whenever I feel sad because I find it overwhelms him and makes him really down. I know we have to share with oneanother but I find myself protecting him.
Hi Sarah and Chez and Shibhon
Thanks for your reassurance. I think ‘perform’ is a good word, as it feels anything but natural! The first time we were trying, before my EP I tried not telling my partner when my fertile time was, so as to decrease the pressure, but it just didn’t work. He would have nights out arranged and/or come home after one too many, so I figured, we need to approach it as a team! He’s a bit more clued up now about how things work. We try to approach it with humour at the moment, dont know how long that will last!
My sister, who has never tried to get pg, has said to me I shouldn’t be so regimental about it, which annoys me really, especially after what I’ve been through. Also, given that I know pretty much when I’m fertile, why would I not do it then?!
Good luck this month everyone. Hope it’s not too much of a chore.
Good luck for the 29th Shibhon.
Xx
Hey ladies,
I’m quite lucky on the ‘performing’ issues. My partner totally gets the fertile bit and everything. And without too much information we have a timetable, week 1. Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Sunday. Week 2 Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday. (Unless we decide otherwise inbetween)
But we try different approaches so it doesn’t feel like a chore. I mean we both desperately want a baby but I think it can get a bit much if it’s all regimental all the time, if you know what I mean!
Sometimes I think TTC too hard makes you less likely to get pregnant.
Also good to take some time off from TTC once in a while. And just enjoy a drink and some fun.
Peacelily, I know what you mean about your sister, but I think people whom have not had an EP really understand. That’s why I love this group of ladies, you all understand how I feel and things. And I thank you all for that!
Shibhon is right people who haven’t had an ep don’t and cant understand, even my friends who have has mc don’t quite get the stress of it plus they all have had successful pregnancies before plus they know me well enough not to try to be helpful as I can maybe possibly get a little blunt with what I think about their input , plus I have one of those faces that shows exactly what I’m thinking :twisted: :twisted: lol
I like the idea of a timetable, but in our house I’m the one who is desperate and he isn’t that bothered if it takes forever as he would like to wait until everything is perfect, though I’ve come to the conclusion we’d be waiting until we’re 70, however my hubby has found that he can blackmail me in to performing household cores in return for ‘performing’ which is amusing him no end, but he’s been a bit down recently so I’m letting him get away with it as it’s kinda funny (we have an odd relationship but it works lol)
Random question as im in my ttw im getting a little more conserned with what i eat and drink, i still have my morning coffee i’ve switched my remaining 15 (seriously!) with herbal teas i just had a thought are they safe? The internet isnt giving me a clear answer of what is safe and what isnt, does anyone have any ideas?
Xx
I can TOTALLY understand being annoyed at well meaning comments from people who’ve had easy success in the baby department. I have a face that says: you’re lovely, all the time, then I go home and stew over it in privacy. I wish I could be more frank!
When it comes to teas I spoke to a naturopath. They have a simple guide for which ingredients cross the ‘blood-brain’ barrier, thus causing certain elements to enter the placenta unchecked. From memory (don’t quote me!) licorice tea isn’t good and I think peppermint and valerian are fine. By the way, great work cutting down the coffee! I have discovered really good decaf Earl Grey Tea (my addiction) so I’m only having one full caffeine tea each morning and a coffee every second day.
I have no idea on tea’s. I drink maybe one cup of tea a day unless visiting family when they make it by buckets full!
Well done on the cutting down.
I’m in my most fertile days now, so hopefully… But on the other hand I’m still happy to wait until the tests I’m due at the end of the month.
X
Ta for the responses, their is so many contractory advice ive put my nice lovley teas away (all have lincoraish in 
) and got me pure peppermint tea and fizzi water as a subsitute (im driving myself crazyish)
Shibon that is a good way to look at it, nice and relaxed
How is everyone doing?
Xx
Fair enough, it is hard to get accurate information. It sounds like you’re making a wise decision.
Best wishes Shibhon, Hopefully this is your month!
I’m in the tww now but going ok. Our due date is next week (from our ep in May) so I’ve planned to spend it with Hubby and my only group of friends who are all happily childless. I don’t want to mope!
Due dates are difficult we always try to do somthing nice just the two of us like go the beach and let off a latten or buy a ballon, for the first ones we brought each lost baby a book and wrote a message each.
Fingers crossed it will coinside with a happy news
X
Good plan Shl, I’ll certainly keep those ideas in mind. Thankyou! X
I hope u get though it ok and hopefully ull have a well deserved bbp soon hun
Cheers xx
Sorry I’m only just checking in again. Thank you to all who we’re kind enough to reply to my last one.
Chez I hope it all goes ok for you next week. Just go with your feelings. It’s ok to feel however you feel.
I echo what others have said. This is a lifeline - being in touch with people who’ve actually been through it and know how you’re feeling is such a comfort.
I think my period is coming. I’ve had some dark stuff on and off today, but it’s not coming as fast as it usually would, so really confusing. I just tested and it’s negative. My period would be due tomorrow I think, though still irregular. If no definite period tomorrow I think I’ll test again on sun. I’m trying not to get too despondent this first month.
Re the tea question - I know that the advice is to avoid caffeine once PG. Does it also have an effect on conception, or are people just being careful in case already PG?
Am I too early on in month to be on this thread? It’s my first month of trying since EP so a bit unsure.
(Sorry for all the questions).
Good luck to everyone going into their fertile week.
Xx
Your questions are fine, I’m sure we’ve all asked them at some point! You’re free to come and go as you need to, I don’t think anyone minds where in your cycle you are or how long you’ve been TTC.
I’ve had irregular periods quite a bit since my ep, and so have others here, and I also find I get more pain, which is odd!
First day of AF today so feeling pretty blah but I took the dogs for a walk by the river which has cheered me up somewhat!
One of my best girlfriends had her baby girl today which is happy-sad as we were due the same week. Trying to be positive but I’m allowing myself time to grieve.
Chocolate is my friend! Much love girls. X