Hi ladies,
Thought I’d kick start the November thread.
Wishing everyone all the luck in the world with their journey
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Thanks Countrysidecrazy! It’s a waiting game here, But I’ll keep you posted.
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Thanks girls my first month of TTC and I am excited / nervous at the same time!!
Good luck to you both xxx
Hi ladies
Im still waiting to see if October was a success for me, but wanted to join your thread to wish us all luck for November!
After ten years of ttc, a failed relationship and zero pregnancy, im now remarried and have conceived twice- one miscarriage, one EP.
Both times i conceived i was on annual leave from work, did not use my ov tests, and had sex for fun, not for babies! All the other months/years of ttc were fruitless.
I dont know what the difference was, but it has to be more than coincidence. I look back at all the times ive forced myself and pressured my partner to do what neither of us are in the mood to do, and think of the damage its done to my relationship… and wonder if i really shouldnt have bothered because it didnt work anyway!
Have any of you concieved when you were ttc obsessed style, or when you werent trying at all? Do you think they could be something in this? If so, how do i let go and allow nature to take its course when its all consuming and the most important thing to me?
Oh it should be so easy… 
Chez - did you manage to talk to your man about those tests?
Lou - welcome and all the best with your first month. Stay positive and be kind to yourself. I think a mix of excited and nervous is very normal. Try not to put pressure on yourself (easier said than done I find).
Rld - fingers crossed for your October TTC. I have only conceived once when I had my EP and that was after giving up with all the obsessing. I totally think that has something to do with conception for me. I have recently calmed down a lot and packed away my ovulation kits. I’m trying not to think about it too much. It’s so hard when it is so important.
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It is hard when it’s so important! I really enjoy intimacy when it’s not ‘baby making’ time. I spoke to hubby about his test, only briefly, and he said he’s hoping to book it in this week. He is lovely, and took it well. Either way I’ve decided to go ahead with laporascopic surgery and see if I can get some answers about my own body.
First month TTC after ep is tough- I was a bundle of nerves! Hang in there.
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Chez - I’m pleased that you spoke to your husband and he is going to book in for the test. Also pleased you made a decision about having surgery. I’m a great believe in knowing what’s going on so you can know what steps to take next.
I personally like to feel in control, but the whole conception journey is so different to other things. I’m slowly accepting that and not beating myself up for not conceiving.
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Hi girls, may I join in? I had ectopic in June this year which resulted in left tube removal. We been TTC since August. I know I shouldn’t worry as it only been few months but it is driving me crazy. I am dreading I won’t be able to conceive again 
. Ovulated around 4th or few days later. Couldn’t understand ovulation tests. Af due in 8 days and not feeling very positive baby dust to you all xxx
Hi Gitast, I’m sorry to hear of your sad journey this year. I too lost my left tube, and did take quite a while to get the hang of TTC again afterwards. Hang in there, you’re among friends here.
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Hi Gitast,
So sorry to hear about your EP. I hope you are being kind to yourself and are well supported by loved ones.
I also lost my left tube earlier this year.
I know what you mean about TTC, it’s a rollercoster of emotions. I personally didn’t get on with ovulation kits. But am trying to relax and put my trust in nature. It is hard though as I have similar thoughts about future conception.
I’ve found this forum really useful, so any lovely people who truly understand. Welcome to this thread, sending you lots of baby dust.
I hope we all get out BFP’s soon. AF is due for me very soon. Trying to stay realistic and not get my hopes up
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Trying to conceive is driving me crazy. I am about 9dpo and can’t stop symptom spotting. Could I test already? How is everybody else is getting on? X
Hi Gitast.
I always wait to test and only test if AF is late. I was due on yesterday. Tested today and got a BFN. Devastated doesn’t come close. 
I think some HPTs are more sensitive than others. Just be carful as the hormone may not be strong enough before AF due. So there may be a chance of a false negative.
All the best
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Hi countrysidecrazy, feel awful. Caved to in tested with first response and bfn :(. Even still 6 days till af - feel out. Got positive 10dpo with ectopic in June. So emotional crying my eyes out. Hope you ok? Xx
Hi Gitast
I’m sorry to hear your news, maybe it’s still too early to detect? I’ve only been pregnant once so I’m not sure, but maybe the hormone won’t always show for you at 10dpo??
I’ve had such a hard day. Very emotional. Just cant find an off button for the tears. I’m normally not too bad when AF shows up, but am normally like clockwork. But this month I think I really got my hopes up and I’ve found it really tough.
Hope you’re surrounded by love today
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Hi girls I’ve been trying to conceive on and off since my ep in January where I lost my left tube. I’ve been feeling really low this month as I bought some clear blue digi ov tests and kept getting a circle not a smiley face which indicates that I’m not oving, just feel like it’s another set back as I always thought I was oving with no problems based on ewcm (sorry too much info) has anyone else used these tests? I’m kinda hoping there not reliable, getting really fed up now first time I’ve used them think I should just throw them in the bin! Hope you’re all getting on ok? Xx
Countryside crazy I was exactly the same last month id had a lot of symptoms and was devastated when af came, feel like I’m on a roller coaster of emotions every month, at least you can try again that’s what I always think be kind to yourself xxx
Countrysidecrazy I know it won’t make you feel better but you’re not the only one feeling like this. Every month now I am symptom spotting convincing myself that it was my month just to get a huge heartbreak. But you know they say you’re not out till af shows. So there is still hope. And always the next month. I really hope it won’t be very long for you. Xx
Lucy don’t get very upset about ovulation. Maybe you just missed the surge. It’s so easy to miss it? Did you test twice a day? Xx
I always symptom spot am full of hope every month then get my hopes dashed every month. Gitash I’ve been taking them on a evening as they directed but nothing made sure I followed the directions taking at the same time, I’ve been a bit stressed this month with starting a new job so maybe that might be throwing things out of whack (I live in hope anyway) xxx
Lucy, you could’ve missed your ovulation. I read that its most accurate to test about 2pm. Never know you might get your bfp when you least expect it. I think I’m out this month. Af due Wednesday tested this morning bfn again
Sorry for my silence, AF came and I needed some time to get my head round it. Feeling positive about the future again now.
Thank you all for your kind words and support.
Lucy I tried ovulation kits, but found them frustrating. I read you needed to not drink too much a few hours before doing one and not to go to the toilet for a few hours beforehand too. I found this difficult to plan and manage. In the end I threw them away and have felt calmer since.
My EP was in feb. I’m wondering when it would be appropriate to seek medical advice, am guessing not until we had been trying for 12 months?? (I’m in the uk)
Please all remember to be kind to yourselves
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