Hi Ladies, my turn to get the ball rolling this time I think! It’s been nice hearing a few success stories recently, so I hope we can hold onto that hope on our down days.
Thinking of you all as we head into another month! My aim is not to go crazy with stress, but awaiting some results and a new plan from our specialist, so I hope we get some good news.
Keep smiling,
Chez. X
Hi Chez,
I just got my AF which was late - I was really keeping my fingers crossed… I guess my cycle is a bit more all over the place than I realised. I had so much weirdness down there this month but I think maybe I didn’t even ovulate. It is still only a few months since my EP so I guess I should seriously relax?!
Someone gave me a tip yesterday that I thought I’d share. She said her gyno told her to only do a pregnancy test after 5 weeks since your period. So I have written in my diary 5 weeks to test and I am going to attempt (!) to just forget about TTC until that date. We’ll see if I really can do that but I am going to give it a try…
Another tip I’ve been given is that whenever I see a pregnant woman, think “That will be me soon!”. Positive thinking helps hopefully…
Good luck everyone!
Thanks, that’s good advice! I actually tested this month as AF was quite late, and I too had some weirdness happening in my body. I was starting to wonder about being pregnant, which is usually my downfall! I’ve had chills and hot flushes all week and had brief spotting at day 10, so strange!
Anyway, we all get a bit crazy with TTC from time to time. Feeling a little flat today, but I’m having coffee with a good friend this arvo so that’ll help.
My cycle was all over the place after my surgery, and everything took a fair bit longer than I expected to resume its usual rhythm. It can be confusing in the meantime though.
XX
Hi, I’m joining in for October too.
I know what you girls mean it can all be very confusing. I still struggle to work out what my body is doing and it’s too easy to start symptom spotting. I’ve found myself getting disappointed each month as I convince myself that this month will be the one I get my BFP.
I’ve just got back for a couple of weeks holiday and didn’t realise just how much I needed a break until I had one. I’m feeling much calmer about TTC now. Whilst I was away the date I should have been due arrived. It was a difficult day as I just kept thinking about what could have been. I was pleased to have been away from home and work on that day. It gave me time and space. Still feel so very sad about my EP.
XxX
Dates are bittersweet, Countrysidecrazy, I think we’ve all been saddened by where we could have been when the due date comes around. It’s a hard time, be kind to yourself. I always find a quick holiday or night away helps get some perspective on life so I’m glad you had the opportunity.
agreed. i’m just trying to really not think about it and focus on anything else! but when you are in pain physically it is harder. and when i see other people with babies or friends that are pregnant (sometimes for the 2nd time since i have been trying) then i do feel like a failure and wonder if i will ever get pregnant. trying to keep positive but you have to be honest about how you feel too.
i’ve been considering changing careers for ages and was waiting to use my maternity leave as a natural pause. but now i am sick of waiting and i realised it was putting pressure on me to get pregnant and i was putting off making positive changes in my life. why should i wait? so i am focusing on that and thinking it is better to not make everything about babies - even when you have one you should still attend to yourself, right?
Sometimes it feels like we’re putting our lives on hold for all this, but I always find it good to enjoy all the other blessings life has to offer. I’ve felt very down lately but trying to focus on my beautiful garden (it’s spring here) and hubby and my two great jobs. Small things make a big difference some days!
I’m in a waiting game at the moment. My Dr wants to do laporascopic surgery to assess my remaining tube and womb, but we can’t book it in until hubby does another test. I love my husband dearly and want only the best for him, and I know how much he hates these tests, but how I wish he would get on with it! It’s been 2 months since we got the referral and he’s asked me not to mention it. I’m going a bit crazy waiting for him, does that sound irrational?
Thanks Ladies. X
hi chez,
not at all - i completely understand. men have it SO EASY in their physical part of baby making, even in ivf. my husband is also not as committed (obsessed?!) as me in having sex every other day and i can’t seem to make that clear enough to him. i know he wants kids and i know he was very upset by the ectopic and that his sadness took backseat to my struggles. i know it is hard for partners but sometimes i feel like he is dragging his feet but won’t admit it - maybe he doesn’t even really realise how he feels and that is why. to say you can’t mention it seems a bit harsh though. oh to be someone who just simply gets pregnant!
Hi chez,
It’s not irrational at all. I think it’s good to talk and be open about how your feeling. We haven’t had any tests so far, but I know I would also feel very frustrated if my husband was dragging his feet.
I agree with next time - it’s often me pushing the importance of having sex every other day. What I find frustrating is my husband seems as disappointed as me when AF arrives, (she got me again last week 
) but then lacks motivation to be proactive. I find that very confusing.
Chez, maybe you could set aside a time to talk it through, somewhen soon where you both have time and space. Then I’m sure you would both feel better. I hope he takes the test soon so you can move forward.
Ah indeed to be someone who fell pregnant easily - I totally agree with that next time!
Be kind to yourselves ladies xx
hey,
i know it is november now, but wanted to sign off by saying i got my AF and my cycle was super short - 25 days. i was kind of glad it was that as i really had some discomfort and it was making my mind race - what if it was another ectopic? i’ve realised that i am not ready to try yet… it is still only just over 3 months since my op and my body doesn’t feel healed enough to not be really confusing me and stressing me out! i don’t like the pain, but i can deal with it better emotionally if i know there is no chance i could be pregnant. i am going to take at least this month off and see how i feel. last time i took some time out of ttc i came back to it feeling so much better and then fell pregnant. i’m going to focus on getting as healthy as i can. it makes me sad to feel i am again having to wait for something i want so much but it was driving me a little nuts…
Hi next time,
I think it is really positive you have recognised that you need a little longer. With hindsight I should have done the same when I first started trying, but did not have that insight (or refused to acknowledge that thought!). I also used to drive myself mad with every twinge and would “spot” symptoms like there was no tomorrow, this just set me up for a bigger disappointment when AF arrived.
I too got my AF in October, my cycle is also short with an average of 25 days.
I wish you a peaceful time of not trying and hope to keep speaking to you throughout your journey.
Xx
Dear Countrysidecrazy,
thank you for your message. It feels like a strong decision and I am going to use the last two months of the year focusing on getting and feeling better. I am sure this can only help.
How long have you been trying now? And when was your op? Mine was in July so I guess I can afford to just calm down a bit… it really was not that long ago.
Good luck to you too!!
My operation was in February, so have been TTC since late march. In reality it’s only 8 months and I can see now that for the first 5 months, I was emotionally not ready. I really beat myself up about not conceiving each month and before I knew it my spare time was consumed with TTC. Over the last 2 months I’ve really been able to take a step back and reevaluate things. I now feel much calmer, I have thrown away the ovulation kits and ditched the conception app only phone and am just enjoying being with my husband. Intimacy has returned to having fun rather than a baby making procedure. I am currently focussing on my own well being and have joined a gym.
Now living with the thought of having a healthier body and mind, looking after myself and letting nature act in her own way.
Cc
Xxx