Hi, never posted on a forum before but here goes…
On New year’s day of this year I not only found out I was pregnant but hours later I was rushed to A and E by my husband in agony, the next day I was rushed into theatre to have my left fallopian tube removed. Devastated was an understatement. Two weeks ago I found I was pregnant again, I was determined to try and not get paranoid about every ache and pain I felt, due to my previous ectopic the hospital kept a choose eye on me, sadly this Sunday just gone, I was in pain and taken to a and e again. The pain this time subsided but bleeding began, the next day I believe I miscarried my pregnancy whilst taking a shower. Monday I was in for a scan (inconclusive) Tuesday it was bloods but they kept hold of me believing It could still be ectopic (despite what I told them) I’ve now had to have methotrexate which means months of waiting to try again. I’m losing hope that I’ll every be able to have my own family. Can someone tell give me a little bit of hope.
Hi Kw1981,
I’m so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. You have had a massive physical and emotional upheaval, and recovery from ectopic pregnancy will take time. Everyone’s path is unique to them and there are no set timeframe for emotional recovery. There are no “musts” or “shoulds” or deadlines. Grieve as you wish and cry, vent, release your emotions as you need.
I found that the first few months were the hardest, as I didn’t fully understand why it happened to me. Slowly, the darkest clouds lifted and I began to have some ok days and even some good days again sometimes. Recovery is not always a smooth path however and some days were good and some not so good. With time though, I began to accept what had happened and, although we never forget, it is something that is a part of us that we learn to live with.
It can be possible to conceive after experiencing ectopic pregnancy, the time it takes can vary from couple to couple. Factors include age, your and your partner’s general and reproductive health and how often you have intercourse (sex) etc. Studies show that around 65 per cent of women are healthily pregnant within 18 months of an ectopic pregnancy and this rises to around 85 per cent within two years. While, the chance of a subsequent ectopic pregnancy after a first is around 10 per cent. Again, looking at this another way, there is a 90 per cent chance of the embryo implanting in the uterus with a future pregnancy.
Your ectopic pregnancy was so recent and it is still early days in your recovery. Please do allow yourself all the time and space that you need to heal and know that you have a supportive environment here for as long as you need. We are here for you any time. These boards are a safe environment to let off steam among people who have been there and understand. Please do continue to do so for as often as you wish.
With good wishes,
Michele
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