Hi, this is my first post and I wanted to see if anyone has been / is going through similar? I have been Ttc for 4 years and finally fell pregnant this summer after my second round of ivf. Unfortunately I had an ectopic, was rushed in for emergency surgery and lost my right tube. This was all in August and it does feel quite soon to think about ivf again but I am so desperate for a baby! I am hoping to have a fet at the end of October. Am I crazy? Don’t know how I am going to cope if it does not work 
Well - I would say if you don’t know how you will cope if it doesn’t work, then it is indeed too soon. I also had an EP from IVF (followed by a chemical & then 2 miscarriages). I very well know that feeling of wanting to be pregnant again asap. I am currently waiting to recover from my mc & waiting for the days to go by is torture. My MC was at the end of Sept & it’s 2 months for my uterus to heal & then another 2 months of down regulation. I feel like my life is on hold & the time is going by slowly. But the very fact that I am so obsessed with it I think shows that it wouldn’t be a good idea now.
So we have booked a cycling holiday in Sri Lanka over Christmas which is about the only thing that will distract me. I would find something that can occupy you usefully - like losing weight/getting fit (if that would help) and focus on it. And maybe delay the next cycle a bit.
Also ask your doc to use embryo glue for your FET. It’s really more of a hatching medium that they use when putting the embryo back - but there is some evidence that it might help the embryo stay put. I used it for my 3 pregnancies after my ep & haven’t had another ep.
Best of luck
Dear Lucy
I have not had experience of IVF, although I know from friends that it is an intense experience. It is really only you who knows if you feel ready to try again. Some women are desperate to try again as a way of putting their ectopic experience behind them, others feel the need to give themselves more time. All I can say is that, having had an ectopic pregnancy myself, I’m not sure if we ever get to the point where we know we could definitely cope if it happened again - in my experience it is a bit of a leap of faith that your desire for a baby is greater than the fear of it going wrong. But there is something to be said for having given yourself time to come to terms with your experience of the ectopic pregnancy and given yourself time to heal physically and emotionally if that is what you need.
Much love
Beth - Host 7 x