I was on the boards last year after ectopic with tube removal and then a miscarriage. I left because I was trying not to think about ttc all the time. In that time my mum was very ill, me father in law died and my husband broke his leg, so it’s probably no suprise I didn’t get pregnant! Im now finally pregnant again (4 weeks 5 days) and I’m petrified. Im also hopeful because I got a positive test at four weeks, late in the day, so hopefully the hcg was quite strong. But im desperate for a baby and I just don’t think I can go through another heartbreak. My husband says that the highest likelihood is that it will be ok, but I’m worrying constantly! How do I keep it together for the next few weeks until I can have a scan?!
Tessbutterfly m, glad to hear your pregnant! Try to believe it can happen to you as it does with so many. I would call the Early Pregnancy Unit at your hospital so they can do an early scan and another prior to your 12th week to give you peace of mind. All the best lovely xx
From my own experience the worry doesn’t go away but what I did to help myself stay sane was go and see your GP, mine was very understanding and sent me off for regular blood tests so we could make sure my hcg was appropriately doubling every couple of days, that did put me at ease.
Then gp sent me off for the early scan at 6 weeks to confirm pregnancy was in the right place and it was, the only thing was they could only see a sac and nothing else so could not yet confirm a viable pregnancy, so another 2 week wait for a second scan to confirm a fetal pole was present. After that scan I did start to relax a little probably because my ectopic ruptured at 8 weeks, so that 8 week mark was significant. The next hurdle was 12 weeks when I finally saw my baby’s heart beating it was from that point that the worrying eased and I could start to enjoy my pregnancy.
I found coming on hear and talking to all the lovely understanding women and sharing my fears and worries is what truly got me through those first months (even with caring husband, friends and family at home)
Wow! I could have written your post as I’m going through the exact same thing right now. After two miscarriages, an ectopic, two rounds of IVF I’m finally pregnant. I feel exactly the same as you. Am only 5 weeks and just feel terrified all the time. Every twinge and ache and pain makes me stop in my tracks. I visit the bathroom umpteen times to check for any blood. It’s an awful feeling.
Checking the date on your post, I am assuming you are a little further on right now. I’m praying for you that your scans showed everything in the right place and you can start to relax a little more.
I can relate to this post as in March this year I suffered an eptopic which was treated with methotrexate. We fell pregnant in July and at the 6 week scan all looked perfect. Sadly at a 10 week scan we found out the baby’s heart had stopped and I had a missed miscarriage which was so heartbreaking as we had so much hope and excitement. I’ve just had my first cycle and been given the all clear to try again however I’m so worried that it could happen again (either ectopic or missed miscarriage) and I don’t think I could cope. I’ll be a complete wreck next time.
I hope you ladies are all feeling better now you are further into your pregnancies. Xx
