I am sorry for my spelling and grammar. English is my third language.I am married with English man living in England many years.I am typing so fast while daughter having nap in the pushchair so in rush with kids as always… …
I had ectopic( left tube removed in May 2014, I had surgery which removed alive fetus with heart beat 8th May.It was 4 days before our daughter has her 2 birthday.I was devastated because it was so close to our daughter birthday while I was in pain I was decorating her cake and smiled on her pictures for my gold curly lock girl. I would take it easier if the embroy didn’t grow well,didn’t have heart beat but our little angel which we lost had heart beat and was well developed,had fetal pole measured 6 mm.We had funeral 1 week after surgery so he/she is resting in peace.
We wanted so much other baby because I have PCOS and dear husband low sperm count.We are so lucky to have our daughter we prayed for her and I conceived her 20 months after wedding in 2011.
I am just feeling down recently , I have been going threw so much those days,I have cyst on the top of the root of the crown going to dentist for last 3 weeks often ,I may need surgery or extraction.Sometimes I have migraines which got worse after ectopic.
On the top of the things we are worry about genetic tests which we are going have in 1 month time because there is Friendrich Ataxia (heridatory)illness in my husband family.His brother has son who has it.It is such a serious illness and it does giving us worry if my husband is carrier so this is why is genetic test on the way. We have to avoid it and wanted know if our daughter is OK and will be Ok because she is so precious to us. She is 2 years old and 4 months and threw her life we went for neurology,EEG and lots of tests done because she had spams torticollis in the neck when she was 3 months old after vaccination.Last Christmas we were worry about her having tumor because we met bad doctor who told us it could be possibility. Just info from bad doctor kind of destroyed with worry our last Christmas. Other doctors and tests showed she didn’t have tumor .I am hoping this Christmas will be nice this time.WE are going in November 2014 for genetic test avoid Friedrich ataxia.I would like so much more children,or at least one another healthy child.I know we have to know if my husband isn’t carrier of illness and our daughter is free of it.I feel I went threw so much in last 3 years only God and my faith giving me strength.
We have been trying /not avoiding pregnant for last 2 months without luck.I checked my BBT and I used OPK and we tried right time BD. But no luck.In my family nobody has Friedrich ataxia and our daughter has been free of symptoms so I believe she doesn’t have illness and we can have another child but the test will show us for sure . My periods has been after ectopic 39 days long before ectopic it was 35 days for last 10 months and I ovulated on day 21.After ectopic I don’t produce fertility mucus or extremely little almost none.Does anybody got pregnant without producing Egg white fertility mucus.I just would love another baby brother or sister for my daughter.When genetic tests will come clear I would want baby so much.I would like my cycle to be be as before 35 days,I am not overewheight,healthy BMI not typical case of PCOS. When I has surgery they also said I have flimsy adhesions in all pelvic area and on testine I had HSG test done before my daughter was born and both tubes were clear that time.,My daughter was born prematurely 6 weeks because of my preclamsia and I had E-C-section.Doctors told me I experienced bleeding after E-section which caused adhesions.I don’t want another HSG because sometimes tube can be in spasm and give bad result so I only want believe if it is God will we will have other child if not I have to be happy to have our daughter.Also because we are Catholics we can’t have IVF treatment is not allowed in our religion.I only want advise about periods,fertility mucus and have somebody to tell what I am going threw. ans support from you all.God bless you all with children and health.Katie xx
You sound like you have had a very hard time the past few years and im sorry you had an EP.
I like you was worried about egg white fertile mucus and a fertility consultant told me not worry about it. She said that not every1 gets the egg white stretchy stuff, some ladies just get slippery wet slighty stretchy mucus and that is their fertile mucus and some ladies mucus just stays in their cervix.
I too have been trying for a few months with no joy and am trying to stay positive, take prenatal vitamins and have sex althrough the month at least 3 times a week. My consultant is sure we will get pregnant again.I had an ep in april.
My husband is very against ivf so it would never be an option for us. I just have to have faith that everything thats is meant to happen will and one day we will be blessed with a child.
I’m very sorry to hear you have been through an ectopic pregnancy. It sounds like you have a lot of other worries at the moment too which must be making things feel harder. We are here to share your concerns with, so please do keep visiting these forums and sharing any worries.
Although there isn’t a known medical reason for it, many women do report that their periods are different after an ectopic pregnancy - some find their cycles are shorter, some longer, some less regular and some more or less painful etc.
It is not very long since you had your ectopic pregnancy, and it does take a while to recover physically and emotionally from such a devastating experience. Please don’t put pressure on yourself to conceive quickly.
As Avis has said, everyone is different and not everyone will have every sign of ovulation. Sometimes when we are feeling anxious about pregnancy, we obsess about these signs but this can just make a stressful situation more stressful. In the UK, NICE (National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence) advises that trying to time sex around ovulation causes stress and is not recommended - the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust advises having intercourse 2 or 3 times between day 10 and 20 of your cycle. But as I said above, please be kind to yourself, it sounds like you have a lot on your plate already.
Much love
Beth - Host 7 x
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Dear Avis,thanks for your reply.I wish you God blessing ,I believe if it is God will you will have baby soon. One month before we conceived our daughter we were looking for option of adoption.WE would definitely adopt if we would not have her until now.
thanks for all your support and I am so sorry you had EP too.I was more OK 1 week after we losted with EP ,I was content and I believed the baby is in heaven. I just can see how much it would be so nice for our daughter to have sibling so this is why I want so much other one little one breastfeed. I am 37,DH is 39 so our time is ticking and i feel I don’t want push myself with BBT an OPK but I see because our age we don’t have spare time …In terms of having BD 3 times a week I have to time BD because of Husband low sperm count so he has to build up sperm best results showed for us after 4-5 days apart.
Well every day I am doing lots with our daughter getting my head around,she has great childhood,she doing so many activities we have also labrador so lots of fresh air with kid and dog. I am full time mum and my girl is still breastfed 3 times a day but i would like stop soon.I try to give her everything,laugh,play,joy and faith. The things will get much better and clear for us as a family unite after genetic tests clear(I HOPE>>) so we will know where we are.I hope my migraines and tooth will be better too.Well whats helping me is talking about how I feel with close friends and husband support.
I wish all of healthy children is biggest gift ever.
I just wanted to say that you seem so brave and your positive thinking is so fantastic, like Avis said, you have conceived twice before so I am sure it will happen again and I wish you lots of luck with your genetic test results.
Regarding your mucus during ovulation, like you I got a lot of it before the operation for my ectopic, that was a big reason I knew I was ovulating. After the operation I never got it again after the operation my periods also went very weird and actually I was diagnosed with pcos as I had a very irregular cycle, I actually had no periods for 4 months once, then out of the blue we conceived, due to lack of periods it came as a complete shock.
I hope you don’t think I am gloating, I just know the agony of not having a baby when you want it so badly and as we have a lot in common I hope it gives you a little hope. like you I had no mucus, was minus a tube, had pcos and it happened. I really hope this gives you even more faith that things will work out for the best and how you want it to.
Like you I also am not a normal case for someone with pcos, normal bmi etc, no other symptoms than irregular periods.
Hello,Rhi and Avis.Thanks so much for your lovely support. It did made me smile.I wish you very good week.I was doing so much gardening this week,cutting roses and fruit trees and green house.Enjoying Mama-Mia with daughter who is 2 and love Abba songs.God bless.
IN terms of your advises I will take it on board and please pray for us those who believe in God for good genetic results.This is what we want the most. May God bless you with healthy children.xxx
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