6 days post op 2nd ectopic

Hi all,

Just thought I’d share my story with you all.

My husband and I suffered from a horrific ruptured ectopic pregnancy in July 2020 where I was rushed to hospital after collapsing at home and had bad internal bleeding. I was taken to surgery within 2 hours of arriving at the hospital and had my left tube removed.

In November 2020 we then suffered our 4th miscarriage but in the grand scheme of things this was small fry to what we had experienced in July. Still a blow but at least no operation or hospital stay was required.

Fast forward to the beginning of Feb 2021 and we found out we were pregnant again. Did I feel excited…nope…did I feel scared…absolutely. I was scared I might miscarry but I was prettified I might have another ectopic.

The EPAC team at Musgrove hospital in Taunton were amazing though and got me in for a 6 week scan on the Friday. Unfortunately the outcome was a pregnancy of an unknown location as they couldn’t see anything in the uterus so they asked me to come back on Monday for another scan.

Monday’s scan diagnosed my second ectopic pregnancy which wasn’t ruptured but had implanted itself into the stump left over from my left tube removal last July. It was an operation and another stay in hospital as it was measuring 6 weeks and my HCG levels were through the roof. I wasn’t in much pain at all and thought the pain I had was a urine infection.

I couldn’t have my operation until the afternoon because I’d eaten breakfast so I waited and eventually went down for surgery at 7pm with the prospect of possibly having to have a hysterectomy because the baby was so close to my womb. By this time I was in a lot of pain and feeling quite dizzy.

When I came round after surgery I learnt they were able to save my womb and just take the left stump of my Fallopian tube so I do still have my right tube in tact. It had ruptured however and I had lost about 1ltr of blood.

I’m now at home recovering physically and not even thinking about the mental side just now. Wounds are healing, I’m pretty bruised and I’ve started bleeding already. I’m just so tired all the time but trying to get up and about as much as I can so I don’t become a sofa monster! Mentally I’m up and down. One minute I’m ok and feeling quite chirpy and then the next someone on TV has said about their need to have a baby or that their kids are annoying them and I get angry and say “well at least you can have kids! Every time I try I nearly die!”

So I suppose I’m going through the ‘angry at the world stage’ right now but something tells me this time is going to be harder than the first time. We are also coming to terms with the fact the only way for us to have a baby naturally will be through IVF so it’s a lot to process.

Just reaching out for some support from other fellow sufferers. I will not let this beat me but I know it will define me

Dear nicki,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancies and losses. To experience one loss is difficult, to deal with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.

When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal. It is perfectly normal to feel the way you do when watching the tv. You are grieving for your losses and also healing from surgery.

It is important that you are kind to yourself. Allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.

We will be here for you for as long as you need,

Sending much love,

Karen x

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