Advice after 6 weeks fallopian tube removal

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Hey there

I’m very new to this place but have found it really helpful. I’m not one to seek support but what happened has been testing.

I wasn’t aware I was pregnant as I was still bleeding, the test was positive but I knew something was wrong. I went to the clinic on 16th May only to be told there is nothing in my uterus. I expected them to say it was a miscarriage or phantom pregnancy.

I was immediately rushed to A&E for a more detailed scan. Baring in mind it was 10am and I assumed I’d be back on the office at 12pm.

The nurses pin my arrival were supportive ( I still didn’t know what was happening). When they did a thorough scan they explained the pregnancy was ectopic. They went on to say it had ruptured in my fallopian tube ( this explains the pain i experienced 2 days before) . Due to the rupture they would need to remove the left tube as blood was in my stomach.

I was shocked and broken down crying. The care I received was amazing. I was alone and one of my friends came to visit.

6 weeks on physically I have come through the surgery was a such. Still a tiny bit of tenderness on the left.

I am now experiencing a waves off emotions. I’ve been back at work on phased return for the last 4 weeks as I just wanted to move on. I will be going back to the gym soon.

I rarely talk to loved ones but they were concerned and I felt exhausted explaining what had happened. It was like reliving it again. I went back to the ward to thank the nurses and a wave of emotion came up. My partner is supportive and said he is my ear but I am struggling to open up.

Even writing this is emotional. I wasn’t trying nor was this expected. I will have children in the future.

I just would welcome any advice or people’s experience.

Thanks for reading.

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Dear 17may,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic loss, from your own words, I can only imagine what a frightening experience this must have been and I am so sorry you are going through this.

When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal. Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy can be a very traumatic event and it can take up to 3 months to even begin to process traumatic events so please be kind to yourself.

We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.

These boards are also a safe space to share, ask questions, or to vent. They are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and journeys, and we are here for you for as long as you need.

Sending much love and warm hugs,

Karen x

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