Hi, I just joined the message boards so I thought I’d say hi and share my experiences.
I had an ectopic in Nov 07 which was successfully treated with methotrexate. I found this site at the time and it was very useful although I didn’t participate in the msg boards.
It was my first pregnancy (at 38 yo!) and I was initially just happy I’d conceived so easily. I started bleeding at ~5.5 weeks so I got an early scan. The ectopic was a big dissapointment and obviously quite stressfull but we tried again as soon as the 3 months were up and I conceived again on the 2nd month. This time it was in the right place but misscarried at 6.5 weeks, once again I looked on the positive - at least it was in the right place so my risk of ectopic was back to the same as everyone else.
In the following months I got so obsessed, following very sign day by day - was I preggers again!? However I didn’t conceive again until early Feb this year, just after getting an appointment at the fertility clinic - typical. This time everything seemed to be going fine, no bleeding, no pain just normal pregnancy stuff but I was booked in for a 6 weeks scan anyway. It was a big shock when it was ectopic again, on the same side as the first one and more developed this time so I couldn’t have methotrexate, saying that we’d decided I’d go for the op if that tube caused problems again.
So here I am, 1 week after the keyhole surgery … its hard to say how I feel, I’m not very emotionally expressive at the best of times. Physically the recovery is going really well but its seems like the better I feel physically the more unstable my mood becomes. We’re going to try again as soon as but I hate that monthly cycle of hope then dissapointment. I’m trying not to worry about another ectopic as they tested by left tube and it was patent at least and the surgeon said everything looked okay. I’ll be getting another appointment at the fertility clinic in 3 weeks or so, at least they can check eveything else out - my periods were very very light so that might have been a problem also.
I also found out that my mum and a friend at work both had ruptured ectopics but went on to have 2 kids each afterwards. Just goes to show if we talked out such things we wouldn’t feel so alone when it happens to you. I didn’t tell my mum about the first EP as I didn’t want to worry her and only told her about this one after the surgery.
Sorry for rambling on, its just nice to know anyone reading this will have some idea what its like and I certainly find it encouraging to read other peoples stories.