So I had my first ectopic 2nd September 2017 and I had my left tube removed then 6 months down the line 23rd March 2018 I had my second I was so heartbroken because it had gone on the left side again there was still a stump left of my tube whicj they made out they took it all out :roll: but knowing your baby had a heart beat is just the hardest thing to deal with and there was nothing you could do abor it have to keep going back to the Epu for bloods every week to make sure the hormones are dropping I just feel so sad I’m now 26 and just want to start my family
Dear Ch4rlie4rlie,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancies and losses, to experience one loss is difficult to deal with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
There is no time frame for how long it takes us to heal emotionally and it is completely normal to feel anxious about the future. We will never forget our pregnancy or babies but we can learn to accept what has happened and crucially understand that it wasn’t our fault.
We are all here for you for as long as you need,
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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