Hi,
I’m new to this so please bare with me…
I’m one week post op after having a tube removed from an eptopic pregnancy. Previous to this I had 2 misscarriages so 3 losses all together.
Apart from the physical side of everything, mentally I don’t know how to feel. Should I be feeling a certain way?! I just feel a bit numb. And not sure what to think. Or is it too soon to think about what’s happened?
Any help or guidance would be appreciated! Thank you x
Hi Vik,
I’m so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and losses. You have had a massive physical and emotional upheaval, and recovery from ectopic pregnancy will take time. Everyone’s path is unique, and there is no set timeframe for emotional recovery. There are no “musts” or “shoulds” or deadlines. Grieve as you wish and cry, vent, and release your emotions as you need.
I found that the first few months were the hardest, as I didn’t fully understand why it happened to me. Slowly, the darkest clouds lifted, and I began to have some ok days and even some good days again sometimes. Recovery is not always a smooth path, however. With time though, I began to accept what had happened, and although we never forget, it is something that is a part of us that we learn to live with.
For me, I found that writing in a journal did help to process the many elements. I recalled elements of the hospital and recovery and thought about the family and friends who reached out with support. It helped me to get the words out of my head and eventually share them with my partner and close friends. This was important for me because my partner also grieved differently. He thought he would lose me and focused his attention on my well-being. I didn’t see him as distraught over the pregnancy, though that was also happening. The journal helped to bring attention to all the feelings.
Your ectopic pregnancy was so recent and is still early in your recovery. Please allow yourself all the time and space you need to heal and know that you have a supportive environment here for as long as you need. We are here for you any time. These boards are a safe environment to let off steam among people who have been there and understand. Please continue to do so as often as you wish.
With good wishes,
Michele
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
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