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I’m struggling post surgery.

Last week I did not feel right, I had already come to terms with another miscarriage. On the Monday I was able to attend a job interview and go to work as normal. By 1 that afternoon I became worse and worse, could not concentrate at work and sitting down was painful.

I walked over to our A&E but had to wait several hours to be seen in a lot of pain. I was sent home at 8pm because they needed a scan and promised the EPU would call tomorrow.

I woke up still in pain in my stomach and pain in my shoulders. My scan was booked for 11. But I was sure this was just a bad period after my miscarriage.

I got my scan and was told it was possibly ectopic, then the surgeon saw me and said I needed to be operated on that day.

No bed was available yet so I was put on watch in front of the nurses office.

Surgery was at 4 that Tuesday and out in recovery by 7pm.

I’m now home, my moods are up and down and I get tearful very easily. I’m still in a lot of pain and exhausted. I’m trying to be there when my 5 year old is around and not let him know how bad I’m feeling.

Thank you to anyone who read this

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Hi GemE!,

I’m so sorry to hear of your experience and your ectopic pregnancy and loss. You have had a massive physical and emotional upheaval, and recovery from ectopic pregnancy will take time. Everyone’s path is unique to them and there is no set timeframe for emotional recovery. There are no “musts” or “shoulds” or deadlines. Grieve as you wish and cry, vent, and release your emotions as you need.

I found that the first few months were the hardest, as I didn’t fully understand why it happened to me. Slowly, the darkest clouds lifted and I began to have some ok days and even some good days again sometimes. Recovery is not always a smooth path, however. With time though, I began to accept what had happened and, although we never forget, it is something that is a part of us that we learn to live with.

Your ectopic pregnancy was so recent and it is still early days in your recovery. For me, I found that writing in a journal did help to process the many elements. I found myself recalling elements of the hospital and recovery, and I found myself thinking about the family and friends who reached out with support. It helped me to get the words out of my head, and eventually share them with my partner and close friends.

Please do allow yourself all the time and space that you need to heal and know that you have a supportive environment here for as long as you need. We are here for you any time. These boards are a safe environment to let off steam among people who have been there and understand. Please do continue to do so as often as you wish.

With good wishes,

Michele

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