Hi ladies
I had a ovary eptopic pregnancy on the 23rd December 2016, I didn’t know I was pregnant until that day due to normal periods ,anyway xmas eve after symtoms etc I had emergency surgery due to internally bleeding from the ruptured pregnancy had surgery
5 weeks one , I can’t explain how much I want another baby , I honestly didn’t think I wanted another child as I already have 2 boys eldest nearly 4 youngest nearly 2 , but it’s all I think about , is this normal?
Also my sister fount out she was pregnant the same time as me I have so much jealously towards her 
when anyone mentions it to me at work I snap at them which isn’t me at all
As soon as I see a pregnant woman my heart breaks , if I see a baby I get emotional because I want something I didn’t think I wanted but I do but my partner doesn’t at all which is harder
Hey hun,
I’m currently going through a suspected ectopic pregnancy myself, I have to wait till Friday to get definite answers which is terrifying and awful at the same time, if it’s what they think it is it will be my second csection ectopic pregnancy, the first being in 2011. Everywhere around me I see pregnant ladies, young girls etc, yes I’m jealous and angry. I keep asking myself why me, is it my fault etc, I know it’s not but what’s getting me is that I’m expected to carry on as normal.
Dear Jodie Sabina,
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
We hear from many women who struggle with news about pregnancy from their friends and families. This is very normal and I was the same after my loss. When I had my ectopic pregnancy I had to attend a family function and a close family member was heavily pregnant. I spent the whole day and evening avoiding her as I found it too hard to be near her. It’s what I needed to do to get through the day and have some space and please protect your heart in whatever way you need. This does not make us “bad” people and it is possible to be happy for those around us while grieving for our own loss. Pregnancies and babies can be a very stark reminder of what could have been and it can be painful. Please do be gentle with yourself and you can talk to us whenever you need.
There is no time frame for how long it takes us to heal emotionally and it is completely normal to feel anxious about the future. We will never forget our pregnancy or babies but we can learn to accept what has happened and crucially understand that it wasn’t our fault.
Sending much love and gentle hugs,
Karen x
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