I had an ectopic pregnancy last March and only just started feeling well enough to try again. This is my first month trying and I am a complete mess for so many reasons. I never really recovered fully from the first ectopic as I am still awaiting therapy.
I am currently in my 2 weeks wait. My TTC period was abruptly interrupted by a UTI but I think I still TTC enough to give me a good chance this month.
I know that pregnancy symptoms are often very similar to PMS but today should be about my 6DPO and I have started having breasts tenderness (symptom I also experienced during my ovulation just a few days ago but it came back) and a lot of weird sensations and mild pain in my lower abdomen/pelvis area mainly on the left (ectopic side) but also occasionally on the right. The other symptom is also stomach gurgling as if I was hungry. This would happen even when I have eaten. This particular symptoms happened when I first had my ectopic so it really rang alarm bells with a frightening sense of deja view.
At the time I had the ectopic, several things happened in my life - I was house hunting and interviewing for a promotion. So I have somehow associated those events to my ectopic pregnancy. And this time, I am kind of going through similar life events: I’m in the process of buying a property as well as preparing for 2 interviews coming up next week. On top of all that, I am organising a trip home for a whole month.
I can’t help but get very anxious as I feel like history will repeat itself. And I cannot do anything until I am able to test in about a week time and get a scan to confirm the placement. But that of course is all dependent on IF I am really pregnant. I just don’t know how to cope with the house stress and interview stress and ectopic stress without harming a potential healthy pregnancy (IF obviously I am really pregnant).
What have you experienced and what did you do to help this situation?
Hi. I had a ectopic in May and experienced the same feelings. I had to do a work exam in May one week before the salpingectomy. I failed the test and did it again in July. It was honestly hard. I even had a small breakdown during the exam. I did not conceive (not so surprising, we were infertile even before the ectopic), but I was a mess the whole month.
The good news is that somehow I passed the test and that now I do feel better and I think I don’t need therapy for my mental health. But It has been a hard time.
I don’t think you can hurt your future pregnancy, Just keep holding on and do the test. If It Is positive then you will do everything to know about the position of your embryo, but until then you can relax (which I know Is VERY HARD).
I am sorry you had to go through something similar. And congratulation for passing the test. I also didn’t get the job I interviewed for when I had the ectopic. So hopefully I’ll have better news this time (pregnancy wise as much as work wise!).
It is indeed VERY HARD not to stress. I am trying to focus one thing at a time. Right now, it’s the interviews. But life being life, I cannot ignore the regular emails the solicitor sends for additional paperwork or that twinge here and there or any other symptoms that could be anything from period to pregnancy. So it’s hard to switch it off completely.
But I will persevere and practice self-care. Thank you for your kind words. xx
Hi i had an ectopic in may. Surgery may 5th my whole world changed. I jus have found out im pregnant but its so triggering im going to hospital today to ask for an emergency scan. They will say im about 3-4weeks pregnant because my period was around 16th last month and dont estimate around conception time. I’m just praying the baby is in the womb. I’m due to start college in September i will ne devastated if i need another operation. I’m really praying for a miracle baby.i never felt more devastated in my life when i had to have surgery anf I’ve experienced many traumas in my life
I’m sorry you are going through this. I am also due to fly to Canada for a month to spend time with my family. This year was really difficult so I really needed some good time off and managed to get it from work. But because of the pregnancy, my trip will have to change. I am praying so hard for the baby to be in the womb so I can still go even if it’s for fewer days. And I will also be devastated if I needed a surgery. My 6 weeks scan will be on Tuesday this week but I’ll only be about 5w2d because of my longer cycles. I hope you’ll get yours soon and it found the right place this time xx
Hi Lyn my scan is tommorow at 10.15 I’m so nervous as I really want to go on holiday and not have to have another surgery and be blessed with a baby. Praying yours goes well x
I hope your scans went well, we will be here for you either way.
I continue to send my positive thoughts,
Karen x
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