Hi,
I am 29 and I had an ectopic pregnancy back in early February resolved by surgery. The nurses and doctors were great, far better than when I now know was the start of a miscarriage last April the day I tested positive at week six and the baby came out a week and half to two weeks later.
I have had the right fallopian tube removed, I am now at the point I can start trying again and as much as I am wanting to go full speed ahead I have some anxieties/concerns about the it all.
Even before the surgery when talking to the nurse and the surgeon, I was wanting to not only talk about the procedure, but future pregnancy. I feel guilty about already planning about possible future babies before the current baby was gone.
My doctors suggested to go on here for extra support. I still am having occasional twinges of pain mainly on the right, especially during predicted ovulation (I use the premom app for tracking) I do get pain on my left but that has been a thing for a long time, I had a cyst on the right ovary back in October. So I had a few ultrasounds for that, one recently and everything looks good and I saw the pictures from the surgery and seeing it for myself I am happy seeing the proof that they say it all looks good there.
I want to start exercising to help overall health and maybe a bit of weight loss from the weight I have gained since December to hopefully help with getting pregnant again and hopefully successfully with no issues, fingers crossed. But I am worried about hurting the area where the surgery was done due to the cramps I do get at times.
I got pregnant with the ectopic in December when the miscarried baby would have been due. So it’s been a bit emotional. In a way I am really looking forward to finally having a baby in my arms but I also have concerns of am I going to fast with it all. With the ectopic, I tested positive on week four and bleeding started a few days after, but I kept testing positive. I thought it was another miscarriage then, but it kept testing positive and had a few ultrasounds until they finally found it on week ten. I felt I had already grieved that baby and at that point and was scared of dying, I had a feeling over those weeks that it was ectopic. I just wanted it over, I feel guilty about that now and I feel like I am grieving the baby more so now than then. I felt they both still deserved names though, silly names really - Seedling and Egsy since they were both so early to know anything about them.
My husband and I had already been trying for two years and the doctors had started testing me and I got the all clear that nothing was wrong and over month later was when I miscarried Seedling.
Sorry for the long spiel. I just wanted the full story out there.
Any advice of how to go about all this?