Hi, I’m so glad this forum is here!! I can’t find anywhere to answer all the questions that i have…on the normal mc boards I can’t express how I feel because people don’t understand how I could be relieved about a mc. But after an ep having a ‘normal’ mc is such a relief…but at the same time I am devestated
I had an ep in July 10 waited 3 months and got a bfp in November 10…I know I would have conceived on my birthday and was so happy. I lost the baby at 5wk 3 days but I have long cycles so really I was only about 22 dpo so I wasn’t very far along. I haven’t been able to find many people who have had a mc so early. Other people describe passing the sac etc but i guess because i was so early there was nothing to pass? I didn’t have much bleeding, no more than a usual period, and hardly any pain. I only passed a few clots. I now have had a negative hpt so I’m pretty sure its all over…
I was going to wait til I have one period before I start trying again, I hear this is the usual advice…I hope I catch again soon I want a baby so much, 2 losses in 6 months is devestating. I feel ok but I have been very up and down…
On my scans for both my ep and mc they said that they saw free fluid in my uterus, they wouldn’t explain what this meant even though I asked they just kind of brushed over it. I think that you see sometimes seen this in early pregnancy but mostly if something is wrong…is that right? What exactly is free fluid? And why is it so bad?
I’m so so so thankful the pg was in the right place and having a mc actually had a positive side to it after an ep they said there was no connection between the two…
The lady who scanned me also said my right ovary wad slighly polycistic but my left one was clear, I’m worried as I only have a right tube and that’s the ovary she said was polycistic, but the doctor said she didn’t think that case and said she thought i was fine…?! How can it be ‘slightly’ Polycistic? I have no symptoms of pcos and have not had a problem conceiving just keeping it in there or in the right place!
I’m sort for such a long message but I’m so relieved you have made this board there is nowhere online that offers such an excellent service and i plan on making a donation over Xmas, i will look on your main site for a link. Thank you again
It’s good advice to wait for one proper period, before you try to conceive again, as this will allow your hormones to settle and your body to get back to a regular cycle. More importantly it will give you and your doctors a clear date to work from when dating a new pregnancy. Not knowing when the first day of your last menstrual period (LMP) was can cause all sorts of worries for us when we have a history of ectopic pregnancy as well as miscarriage.
As for free fluid in small quantities in the abdomen, uterus and pouch of Douglas (the cul de sac between your anus and vagina,)is usually regarded as a normal finding. To put it simply everybody’s insides slosh around in a very small amount of fluid fluid. When it appears in the uterus it can indicate that there was recently an implantation which occurred and failed and there has been a little bleeding from the uterine wall where the pregnancy separated away from the uterine wall. Where free fluid in the uterus is meaningful would be free fluid in the abdomen where ectopic pregnancy of pregnancy of unknown location (PUL) is being considered as in larger quantities it could indicated evidence of internal bleeding and the other time you might see it is following the rupture of an ovarian cyst where fluid is released from the cyst on rupturing. Otherwise it is just normal fluid and sometime there is more, sometimes less but most of us have a bit a certain times in our cycle and it can be detected on an ultrasound scan. The fact you had evidence of a poly cystic ovary might be a clue to your free fluid and it might easily have been fluid from a ruptured cyst but the fact is there is no real way of knowing for sure.
It’s thought that around 30% of women have PCOS but most of us have no idea and it’s never picked up because we don’t have symptoms. To have one slightly poly cystic ovary suggests that you had one ovary with evidence of more than one ovulation cyst (we call these corpus luteum) but certainly more than two small cysts. remember, with pregnancy loss your hormones are all over the place and can stimulate all kinds of reactions in our bodies. So long as nothing untoward was seen on the scan, which from what you describe it wasn’t then you can have some confidence that there’s a good chance that the ovary was as a result of your pregnancy and will settle down again once your hormone levels fall back down too.
You are so right it’s such a bittersweet thing a miscarriage after ectopic pregnancy and hard for anyone to understand that we both feel wretched at another loss, desperately sad for all the babies we have lost all over again but relieved that this was at least not life threatening and we do get that here. Many women who use our services have experienced miscarriage and I am sure they’ll be along to tell you about how it make them feel in due course
I understand exactly how you feel. I had an EP in 2002, followed by an early miscarriage about 6 months late, when I was about 6 weeks pg. My symptoms were like yours, spotting/bleeding/cramping, but nothing like what I thought a miscarriage would really be like. I felt a bit of a sense of relief too. I was gutted that the I was losing the pregnancy, but I was so incredibly relived it wasn’t another EP and that I could get pregnant again. I was 38, so I knew getting pregnant would be tough. But it gave me some hope. We kept trying and after nearly a year, I decided I would never have kids and got a puppy. He is 7 1/2 now.
About a month after getting the puppy, I got pg again, and in 2004 my DD was born. I spotted through the pregnancy, starting about 5 or 6 weeks. I was sure I was about to miscarry again. I was constantly worried, especially those first 2 months that I would lose another one. But when my scan showed a real baby with a real heartbeat I breathed a big sigh of relief. When dd was not quite 10 months old, I found out I was pg again. I was so surprised it happened so quickly. Then at 6 1/2 weeks PG I began bleeding and was told I was miscarrying again. We kept trying and another 6 months went by and I got pg again, only to have it end in another miscarriage at 5 1/2 weeks. My 6th pregnancy stuck and in 2004 my second DD was born. I was 41.
I think my miscarriages were mainly due to my age, but no one ever really had a clear answer on that.
Maggie, I am so sorry for your losses but so happy that you managed to have successful pregnancies! that’s such great news and gives me some hope, I’m so desperate to start ttc again, waiting for af to arrive is killing me…
I feel totally ready to start ttc again and it’s weird but I feel very much like I would catch quickly (probably just wishful thinking) if i did opks then I could tell the docs my dates too. But I know if something went wrong I would eternally blame myself for it…I spose that in itself tells me I should wait.
This ttc thing is such a nightmare, I never thought this would happen to me I guess none of us do…
I just pray pray pray my third time will be lucky!!! Xxxx
I’m sorry about your mc, I too am very similar, and I had an ep in Oct 09 and lost my right tube then got my BFP in Oct 10 but lost baby at 9w1d.
I have been amazed at how well I have healed from this mc, it was natural luckily and for me that has helped me so much. I too had a short bleed and passed the pregnancy tissue then had a period like bleed for 3 days; my period arrived exactly 6 weeks later.
I will be trying this month; my expected day of ovulation will be Christmas day (ish!) not sure how we will manage the Bd!!! I too felt like you and really wanted to try ASAP, I kept on telling myself that I had to wait just to make sure my first AF after my MC was normal and that was hard but I am glad I did, now I feel confident that I can deal with whatever the outcome will be.
My Dr said the first 3 months after a MC you are at your most fertile, not sure how much truth is in it but i’m hoping it will pay off!
I was wrongly diagnosed with Insulin Resistance a few weeks ago and as well as starting treatment I was told to wait at least 3 - 6 months until TTC, I was gutted! Anyway, all of my tests have come back and all are clear, I have lost 1 stone since the Mc and I am raring to go…
Reading Maggie’ post gives me so much hope, I have read a few girls who have had an ep then mc then a healthy pregnancy, fingers crossed that we can share our positives stories in the very near future.
Peach I’m so sorry to hear your story but glad that things are looking positive i am due to ovulate any day now (usually around cd17) and I don’t know if this is real or in my head but I feel really weird…my ovulation symptoms (ewcm, twinges and generally energetic feeling) seem to have increased ten fold…maybe it is true that you are more fertile after!! so I hope next month I get a bfp although I realise that it would be very lucky! Haha im ever optimistic!
Saying that I do feel kind of sad, and cheated out of pregnancy happiness…I know that once i do catch again I will be constantly worrying literallly up until I have that healthy baby in my arms. And I’m jealous of all these people that have ‘normal’ pregnancies with no or minimal complications, because i feel like that will never be me, and that even if I do manage to stay pregnant and in the right place, I’ll never be able to fully enjoy it the way that they do, because I’ll know of all the things that can go wrong
sorry for rambling…it’s nice to hear from someone who has been through this too so thAnk you so much for replying and I will keeping a special eye on your progress maybe we will get a bfp together
Peach I’m so sorry to hear your story but glad that things are looking positive i am due to ovulate any day now (usually around cd17) and I don’t know if this is real or in my head but I feel really weird…my ovulation symptoms (ewcm, twinges and generally energetic feeling) seem to have increased ten fold…maybe it is true that you are more fertile after!! so I hope next month I get a bfp although I realise that it would be very lucky! Haha im ever optimistic!
Saying that I do feel kind of sad, and cheated out of pregnancy happiness…I know that once i do catch again I will be constantly worrying literallly up until I have that healthy baby in my arms. And I’m jealous of all these people that have ‘normal’ pregnancies with no or minimal complications, because i feel like that will never be me, and that even if I do manage to stay pregnant and in the right place, I’ll never be able to fully enjoy it the way that they do, because I’ll know of all the things that can go wrong
sorry for rambling…it’s nice to hear from someone who has been through this too so thAnk you so much for replying and I will keeping a special eye on your progress maybe we will get a bfp together
I know what you mean with regards to seeing and being around pregnant women, two of my friends are due March and June 10’ and they were both saying how easy it was, first time Bd and conceived and both are having fantastic pregnancies. They are good friends but not best friends so neither know about what has happened but I can’t help at times feeling like I wish it was me, and wishing that my 3rd pregnancy will result in a wonderful healthy little baby. I have to keep on reminding myself that it will and can happen and it will be my time soon, but it is hard.
After you have been through what we all have I think it is so nornmal to only feel happy when baby is in your arms. I know that I won’t be able to comepletley relax until I hear the first cry!
Good luck hun and your symptoms sound brilliant, just remember to Bd as much as possible and I have everything crossed for you.
As of today I am, I always ovulate around day 26/27 (I have a long cycle - 39 days) so I thought I would be out this month as my day 26/27 is around Christmas day!
I use the CBFM and it showed a peak this morning, I thought I was close to ovulating as the signs had been there and like you they have been very pronounced, i’m hoping for a wonderful New Year surpsrise!
Hi, oh thts great! I used opks the month I concieved but not using them til I start ttc again, I hope u get ur bfp this month I mite start usih cbfm going to look online at it now and see what it’s all about x
that’s such great news and gives me some hope, I’m so desperate to start ttc again, waiting for af to arrive is killing me…