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Hello… I am just reaching out for some reassurance I think.

I am a 39 year old who was given methotrexate on Friday. I thought I had had a miscarriage and nothing was seen on internal scans but my Hcg continued to rise to over 2000 so methotrexate was decided on.

I was just wondering if anyone has had experience of success post ectopic pregnancy as a lady in her late thirties?

This will be our first child and I’m terrified that is starting later on in life combined with my now ectopic experience is the beginning of the end.

I’m sorry if this feels negative, I am just scared.

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Dear Smalltwig,

I am sorry to hear of your recent ectopic pregnancy resulting in methotrexate treatment. It is understandable after your experience that you have fears and anxiety surrounding the future and trying to conceive again. From all the people I speak to who have gone through an ectopic pregnancy it is one of the most common concerns expressed. Although it can be really difficult to feel this way, I hope that knowing it is very common and natural to feel this way after a loss, and that you are far from alone in these thoughts brings a small amount of comfort.

Although I can’t give any specific examples, I can say that we at The EPT hear from women of a wide range of ages who go on to conceive a healthy pregnancy after an ectopic. Statistically, the chances of having a successful future pregnancy are very good and 65% of women are pregnant within 18 months of their ectopic pregnancy. Some studies show this figure rises to 85% over two years.

I know the feelings you are experiencing right now are difficult, please know we at the EPT are here to support you. If you would like to speak to a member of our support team, you can find out more about what support services we can offer here: https://ectopic.org.uk/how-we-can-help

Sending love and good wishes,

Sophie

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Hi,

40 yo ectopic in a not-trying, no hormones post ectopic resolved by methotrexate. That’s my journey.

An ectopic pregnancy is still a fertilization so that’s good news … a friend of mine conceived with no hormones after ectopic following Ivf hormones.

Don’t apologize for being negative. This is hard!!! Hormone rollercoaster of hcg combined with methotrexate fatigue & lethargy made me pretty darn hard to live with & spouse and I are more stable and loving than ever 5 months post injection.

Seven weeks post 1 dose injection I was “cleared” from more blood work. Sex after ectopic for me was a pretty sensitive process … for sure allow the 12 week healing that’s recommended before conception makes sense based on how sex felt to my insides. All is well now, periods are back to their “normal” selves for me.

I didn’t fight down emotions or fatigue at all. I think it helped recovery & coping with my set of decisions on what next (which I haven’t really made).

Good luck xoxo

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Smalltwig:
Hello… I am just reaching out for some reassurance I think.

I am a 39 year old who was given methotrexate on Friday. I thought I had had a miscarriage and nothing was seen on internal scans but my Hcg continued to rise to over 2000 so methotrexate was decided on.

I was just wondering if anyone has had experience of success post ectopic pregnancy as a lady in her late thirties?

This will be our first child and I’m terrified that is starting later on in life combined with my now ectopic experience is the beginning of the end.

I’m sorry if this feels negative, I am just scared.

Sorry you’ve gone through this. I’ve not got any success story. I just wanted to say you’re not alone I’m in a similar boat as you. At 39 I was told I was miscarrying even though I told by the doctor I was miscarrying. 2 weeks later they saw my hcg went from 2000 to 4600, so doubles, had methotrexate injection and spent 12 weeks bleeding and in pain.

I’m now 40, trying again to conceive. I’m moving forward but still have my fears of it happening again. Even couple days ago I was on my period in pain and it made me have unpleasant flashbacks of the intense pain for weeks of the etopic pregnancy.

The way I see it is I got pregnant a few months ago so I’m sure it’s possible again.

Hang in there.