Did anyone quit work after ectopic surgery? This was my first pregnancy. My husband and I are thinking about me stopping from work and staying at home because;
My fertility had decreased by half
Stress makes it harder to conceive
Chances of another ectopic are higher (and want to be free and take my time to recover if it happens again)
If resorting to ivf i need to have my time as well
I’m getting older and I don’t want to say I haven’t tried my best
What are your thoughts?
Id say if you are in the financial situation, go for it.
Work is just not worth the stress. I work in a stressful job and have had to make big changes to keep my stress levels down.
sounds like a fabulous idea to me 
I did. Work had been going badly for six months anyway due to changes in management, but me and my husband thought I’d stay and stick it out so that when I did fall pregnant, I could claim mat pay and leave at the end of that!
Then the ectopic happened. I had two weeks signed off to recover from the surgery, and within three days of going back my husband saw me lower than I had been at any point in the previous few weeks! I handed my notice in at work just a week after going back from surgery. I left at the end of August.
My job is now is to get our new house ready for our future family - we moved in the day before I was admitted to hospital!
One problem I have is that I like to stay busy, and I stay busy to distract myself. While giving up work was definitely the right decision, I instantly threw myself into a million other things to distract myself from the ectopic. It was only on a recent holiday where I was forced to sit down and relax that I acknowledged what happened to me that I realised that I had gone through something big and that it has affected me. I started counselling a couple of weeks ago.
If you do give up work, just make sure you don’t delay your recovery with distraction. I wish I had taken more time at the start of my time off to deal with what had happened instead of dealing with new garage doors, overgrown gardens and decorating!!! Had I done that, I may have been able to enjoy my holiday a bit better!
Good luck in whatever you decide to do x
First of all sorry for what you are/have been going through.
Can you maybe go part time, or if you are part time maybe reduce your hours further?
I know from experience when I had ds I took redundancy when I was on maternity leave. I didn’t work for a few months and i started feeling really isolated. When I started back at work it was the best thing (although very hard) I could have done.
I would ask about the part time option first.
Big hugs x
working part time is not an option 
That’s ideal