Just found out we are pregnant again much sooner than I thought it would happen. All seems to be going well this time and I am experiencing lots of symptoms which I didn’t get the chance to have last time. GP seems positive and I have been referred to midwives as normal and awaiting my early scan. I do feel different this time last time I kind of knew something was wrong but I am so anxious and worried something will go wrong again! I just want to fast forward to the reassurance scan and hope it actually reassures us! It’s so hard to stay positive it all seems too good to be true and I’m waiting for it all to be snatched away from me again x
Congratulations! Everything crossed for you.
My EP was end of last year but because I was treated with methotrexate got to wait little while yet.
Wishing you all the luck in the world…xxx
Hello how long did it take for you to fall pregnant?? As haven’t long had a ectopic myself, and was wandering how quickly people can fall pregnant… Congratulations aswell x
Whispered congratulations! Everything you mentioned is totally normal, especially considering our histories. When is your first scan? I hope it goes well for you. Remember you have a higher likelihood that it’s in the right place this time… So all in your favour.
I actually just had a scan today as I am in the same situation as you… It’s my second scan now, measuring 7+3 and in here right place, so relieved I can tell you.
Fingers crossed for your scan.xx
Hi Hales
great news, I totally understand your guarded reaction and impatience to get this critical stage out of the way, it is such a mix of emotions, excited about the new beginning, but apprehensive about fully embracing it, in case it get taken away…but the only thing I can say is it’s out of your hands, try and relax and enjoy it, and just take each day at a time, easier said than done, I know.
In my subsequent pregnancy, I was constantly aware of the risks and didn’t let myself believe it was actually all going well, each appointment I was stressed and uptight and every single time I went to the loo I was checking for tell tale signs, even after 12, 20 and 34 week scans I still didn’t feel as though it was going to happen to me, but it did, and looking back, I do wish I had kept a wee diary and tried to enjoy it more, I hate that when she asks what it was like for me to be pregnant with her, I just felt fear…but it was worth it.
with my next pregnancy I did allow myself to relax and it went so much quicker, our nursery was decorated at 30 weeks, instead of when baby was 6 weeks old and I have picture and kept a wee diary, but it never really leaves you, and I always remember feeling jealous of those women who can be carefree and lacidaisy during pregnancy, after 2 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy, It was never going to be that way for me, but the outcome is still the same and I feel us survivors, have a deeper appreciation for the miracle of it all and you will feel that the day you hold your baby in your arms x
good luck with everything and i’ll keep everything crossed for you
Trudy x
Thankyou all. Amazingly we got pregnant the first month or trying and I think it is because I just started to believe it wouldn’t happen again I had tried not to obsess about it so much put my baby books away and got on with other things I started to make plans such as decorating the house and taking up crafts then bam! Pregnant!! I have been referred to the midwives so hoping early scan is soon am around 5 weeks this week and it deffinatly feels different. I have been also checking for bliss every time I got I the loo (which is quite frequent at the mo) this is the longest I’ve been pregnant and all well I just can not wait for the scan then I will feel I can relax a bit more I am calmer than I imagined I would be and and hoping a positive outlook will help whatever happens. I have come to realise what will be will be and if this baby is meant to come into our lives then they will! Was so reluctant to tell people unfortunatly have had to tell people at work and have told close friends and immediate family and figured they will be there to support whatever the outcome. Thanks all for your kind and supportive messages. Will post with an update soon xxx best wishes to you all xxx
A little bit confused now! Have received my letters from the midwifes as my go referred me as soon as I found out I was pregnant and all I have been given is a 12 week scan and my booking appointment no early scan! I was under the impression it was important I had one and the gp and everyone at the epas said so when I had my query ectopic. I spoke to the midwife today and she said they only do reassurance scans for those who have had 3 miscarriages or more! I told it was query ectopic but she said if I have any worrying symptoms to go back to gp and ask for referal to epas! I don’t know what to do as I have no worrying symptoms had no pain or bleeding but why did the midwives at epas keep saying I must have a reassurance scan! It’s making me even more anxious not knowing what I am meant to be doing. Waiting to call epas tomorrow to get their advice has anyone else found this problem? Xxx
Dear Hales-Marie,
Apologies for the personal question, I just wondered whether everything had been sorted with a scan for you now?
If not, we suggest you say to them that you have spoken to the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust who explained that the NICE clinical guideline recommends a location scan when someone has had a previous ectopic pregnancy and that it is best practice. You could also add that if you were ectopic (I am not suggesting that you are and have everything crossed you aren’t) you would want the option to choose whether to be treated with methotrexate to preserve your tube and this can only be done if you are diagnosed early enough. By not scanning you they are taking away your ability to have a treatment choice. Lastly, you could note that your emotional well being is being seriously impacted by their policy.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes,
EPT Host 13
All booked In for an early scan on Monday I’m hoping all ok this time. I am around 8 weeks and having loads of symptoms including sickness bluergh! I am hopeful that having no pain and bleeding this time little one is in the right place. All I can do is hold my breath till Monday x thanks for your support xxx
Sickness bleugh is a great sign. Good luck for Monday x
I am so happy to say pregnancy found perfectly healthy in my womb with a strong heartbeat. Dated at 8.5 weeks! I am so so happy a part of me will never relax but to that little life on the screen and knowing it’s ok means the whole world to me and my partner. Good things do happen and I ask everyone who is going through a dark time to stay hopefull because I am proof that even though we go through an horrific time things can work out in the end xxxxx love to you all xxxxx
Hales Marie, fantastic news. Try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy? Is this your first?
I’m now 3 months post EP so could start trying but we have a close friends wedding coming up so going to enjoy our hen weekend away, the wedding and then try again…watch thus space.
Really comforting and gives hope to all those ladies out there going through a tough time.
Best of luck xxx
Yes second pregnancy but will be our first baby! Am really trying to relax realise how amazingly lucky we are. I think will alwaya be worried until we meet him or her and know they are ok. But for now feel completely blessed and realise you have to sometimes go through the worst to get to the best! Xxxx wishing happy endings for you all xxxx
Congrats 
Congratulations!!! reading this has made me feel much more positive . Wishing u all the best xxx
Pregnancy is going really well I am now 24 weeks and feeling the baby move around is a truly amazing feeling and I love my bump!
Today should have been my first babies due date and even though I am so blessed to be pregnant with this baby I will never forget my first tiny little life who I loved from the moment I knew they were there and I can’t help but wonder what they would have been like, would they be a boy or a girl. The pain will always be with me of loosing our first baby but must stay positive for our baby due in November however will never forget what we went through and will always cherish my baby that little but more. Wishing all you ladies the luck we have had xxxxx sleep well my little baby I will never forget you xxxz
Hi Hales Marie
I just wanted to add my whispered congratulations to you, too. I am so happy to hear that your pregnancy is progressing well.
I also send you lots of love on this touching day. I stand right by you when you say we will never forget our first littlest ones and wishing you peace today, tomorow and as you continue your journey ahead.
Munira
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It is now one year since my ectopic pregnancy and I have recently been blessed with the birth of our baby girl elsie who is truly amazing. I still however feel extremely sad at the little life we lost a year ago but on looking at this perfect little girl it helps the sadness that will always be there. I feel blessed that we have this gorgeous healthy baby and what a difference a year can make. Last Xmas was so sad and this year will be filled with joy however I can never and will never forget that first little spark of a baby that we lost but will treasure our daughter so much more now xxxx I will never forget you my angel and will tell your sister all about you when she grows up lots of love now and always mummy xxxxx
Dear Hales Marie
Thank you for sharing your lovely news. I know it will give hope to so many ladies. Congratulations on the safe arrival of your little girl and we wish you all the best.
Love
Munira
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