I found these forums extremely helpful when I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy in May 2010. I liked reading the success stories as they gave me hope that I too would have my own family one day. Well it has taken 4 years, but on July 30 this year our little girl was born so I thought that I would share my story to help others…
We always wanted a family and started trying when I was 32. It took 10 months to catch naturally but ended in an early miscarriage. Eight months later we caught naturally again and everything seemed to be progressing as it should. I had some heavy spotting at 10 weeks so insisted on an early scan. We were devastated to find out that the embryo was in the Fallopian tube and that I would need to have surgery immediately before it ruptured. When they performed the surgery they found that it had already ruptured and is had been experiencing internal bleeding for some time. A few weeks before I had been poorly with a bad tummy upset, headache and severe abdominal pain. We went to the emergency dr and was told that it definitely wasn’t an EP and that I should manage the pains of pregnancy with paracetamol and wheat bags!
I had 8 weeks off work while I recovered physically and emotionally. I really struggled to come to terms with what had happened both losing a baby also some of my fertility by losing a Fallopian tube. Hypnotherapy got me through this very difficult time, helped me to accept what had happened and look to the future.
Two years later when I was nearly 35 we hadn’t managed to get pregnant again so we went to our GP to ask to be referred to the hospital for fertility issues. I hadn’t realised how long it would take to have tests and be referred for treatment but 18 months later we finally had our appointment at the IVF clinic. After several appointments we were waiting to start treatment after my next period. However my period didn’t come as I had got pregnant naturally while we were waiting for IVF.
We thought that everything was progressing well, an early scan had confirmed that the embryo was in the right place and we were due to have our first baby scan at 12 weeks. At 11 weeks I started spotting and was very worried. It was a Friday morning and I couldn’t face a weekend worrying, so we paid to have a private scan that afternoon. We were devastated to find out that I had had a missed miscarriage and the embryo had stopped growing at 8 weeks.
I called the IVF clinic shortly afterwards but was advised that we would have to wait 12 months after the miscarriage to be eligible for IVF on the NHS. We were both gutted, that 12 months really dragged but we tried to keep busy with holidays, getting fit and losing a bit if weight.
We finally started treatment the following September and my eggs were taken/embryo put back at the beginning of November. I am delighted that our first attempt at IVF was successful and our baby girl was born on 30 July this year. It has been a long and difficult journey but I am now sat here with my very own amazing little girl! I feel very very blessed and treasure every single moment.
Unless you have been there, I don’t think that anyone understands how devastating an ectopic pregnancy can be for a couple and how much it hurts to see friends, sisters and other family members having babies. Please stay positive ladies and hold on to the belief that you too will achieve your dream of having your own family one day. Sending lots of positive vibes and baby dust to you all xxx